Hi AskTRP,

At this point I've been in a 10-month dry spell. It's wearing me down as (a) last summer, when I first read about approaching but not TRP I got 4 lays; 2 same day; 2 first date. (b) I feel like I'm doing everything right but not getting the results.

  • 29, 1.82m, white, 180lb@13%BF
  • Lifting for 7 months, calisthenics before that. People have been calling me "ripped", "big", "strong guy" for about a month (even though my lifts are still shit).
  • BJJ for 3 months which has done wonders for my confidence and general mood.
  • Switched careers from well-paid back-office beta to part-time sales (first retail, now b2b) + building out my own service business (a source of stress as I am still a ways from my previous pay).
  • Cold approach 25 per week, strictly daygame, which convert to about 1 date per 3 weeks (!). I have not been able to seal the deal since last summer.
  • Clothing is on point, well-fitting streetwear of good quality + accessories that hint at my personality/interests.
  • Outstanding diet, meditation practice, gratefulness practice, good sleep.

At this point, here is what I am planning: * When I hit 12% BF, get professional pictures taken and give online dating a try again. * Finally go see a therapist. I believe my mother was BPD which results in approval-seeking during my approaches and dates.

What am I missing TRP?