Can hold frame with other girls, but not with ex-oneitis, why?

CeremonyTree · 2018-06-26T15:55:31+00:00

This is what I would call "revertigo".

When you deal with a girl you had oneitis for from your beta days, you will resort back to all of your old tendencies with them. It is an established routine you have developed and because of that, you are wired to behave that way around them. It takes a ton of time and effort to reverse those tendencies. It is not worth it quite frankly.

On top of that, when you are dealing with that ex-oneitis, she remembers all of your cring-like tendencies you had around her and unless you have dramatically changed yourself, she will always perceive you in that light.

That is why the Iron Rule of Tomassi stating that you are better off finding new prospects rather than rekindling an old flame is so important to internalize. You are better off accepting the fact that you will be a total cringefest around her and that you should focus on gaming other women.

CaptDeadlift · 2018-06-26T15:54:44+00:00

You still got oneitis buddy.

You even went as far as making a thread about her. Just ignore her and thats it.

Meet other women and lift.

Zanford · 2018-06-26T20:21:09+00:00

That's just how the human psyche is. First impressions are pretty strong, and our perception of someone else's value/authority tends to be sticky. Like if you met your boss in public, years after you switched jobs, you'd likely be more respectful than if you met a former underling.

Most people never really get over their early-life crushes or first loves.

Easy solution is not to even bother with your ex-oneitis. SHE most likely will still perceive you as a low-value orbiter (even if you got jacked and upped your game) and be much harder to game than a new chick of the same hotness that you just met.

Another approach is to see her as part of what made you who you are (how you learned lessons about oneitis etc. the hard way) and appreciate that for what it is.

Also think of her taking a stinky dump, that'll depedestalize.

Best way to de-oneitis is, of course, to go out and have relations with other women.

btw, she's not your ex-oneitis, she's your oneitis. If you're still clammy around her, making a post about her, etc. you clearly still have oneitis.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-06-26T19:02:47+00:00

There's no such thing as an ex-oneitis that you're still talking to.

[deleted] · 2018-06-26T16:07:26+00:00

Best thing to do is leave her alone. I still talk with mine. Never works out.

SirKolbath · 2018-06-26T16:30:01+00:00

This is why we ghost, my friend.

Krazy-Kock · 2018-06-27T02:45:14+00:00

You dont want the bitch. Shes not compatible with your game

AlexanderTheBread · 2018-06-27T05:57:15+00:00

I sometimes meet girls who I’ve spent time with earlier in my journey in game and I feel almost transported back in time to how I was back then. It’s so sneaky too.

Title	Can hold frame with other girls, but not with ex-oneitis, why?
Author	Guthix4Days
Upvotes	9
Comments	15
Date	June 26, 2018 3:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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