"My wife just blew through $20,000 last month and sees nothing wrong with it. I now have $-722.93 in our joint checking account." x-post from /r/relationshipadvice.

thadjohnson · 2012-09-27T23:18:02+00:00

Alimony is rare in short-term marriages. Consult with an attorney, but you should be able to divorce her any time under 5 years without any expectation of having to pay. My buddy divorced after 3 years and his ex-wife tried to get alimony. Judge just laughed at her. He makes about 250k/year, she has some $12/hr education assistant job.

crazyex · 2012-09-28T14:38:58+00:00

My ex-wife blew through money like that a few times. One month we had $800 in bounced check fees.

2012-09-28T19:23:00+00:00

He was only married for two years, alimony is unlikely, and it sounds like they didn't have any kids. I hope he divorced that stupid cunt, she spent more in one month than I make in a year.

2012-09-27T23:12:31+00:00

Dude this is a year old. Its relevant in ways that wives feel entitled to both their and the husband's money but $20,000 in a month is ridiculous. Hopefully he divorced the bitch.

Pilot824 · 2012-09-28T03:27:51+00:00

I would first create a separate bank account for direct income. Have all your jobs deposit to that account only. Then from there, allocate out to your joint bank account, and w/e other accounts you have, leaving some in the pot as you go along every payday. That way, you have a backup.

Because I am only in university with no wife/kids, I have 3 accounts. 1 is savings where all my money that I received goes to immediately upon receiving. 2. Spending where I allocate myself enough money for lunch incase I decide to go out for lunch + any planned events + $20 (backup 1)+ $10*(Number events) for backup 2. Then my 3rd account is an emergency Credit Card I use incase my 2nd account doesnt work.

AnnArchist · 2012-09-28T04:11:34+00:00

This is what nghtmares are made of. . .

FireTruth · 2012-09-28T05:02:21+00:00

"I'm not going to live like my aunt who had to beg for money from her husband."

i think this is now a crime in... the U.K

its domestic violence to make a women beg for women,,, or to force her to be "dependent" on your money.

this will be manipulated to lazy women trying to spend on her husbans money then claim she has to beg for money

FireTruth · 2012-09-28T05:04:33+00:00

well he is screwed... if he gets a divorce.. she robs him.

if he stays he roobs him...

today my best friend asked me if i thought if he should ask his very good girlfriend to marry him in the next 2 years.

i had to tell him what i knew about marriege.. storys like these.

he listened... and he knows hoe men can be absued in marriege... but he does not seem to take the information too seriously... or maby he does... and i just dont know it.

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