I'm desperate and need advice on how to lose my virginity.

KamiNoTsurugi · 2018-07-03T03:01:25+00:00

My advice would be to never turn down a party or social function. You should want to do uncomfortable things because that’s what makes you better. Read the sidebar and you will see there is nothing to be desperate about. Abundance mentality, none of these women have anything you should be afraid of. Approach women with the goal of just having a conversation first if you have to.

ppanthero · 2018-07-03T03:30:06+00:00

Facts:

You're as tall as Batman
You attend a top 30 party school in MURICA

I'd advise to play the numbers. Go to 20 parties and talk to 5 girls everytime. Just open your mouth, say something, maintain eye contact, smile, breathe slow and don't leave. Carry a condom.

RedRocket310 · 2018-07-03T03:14:32+00:00

Say yes to more invites. GO TO PARTY’s. That is where females are craving and wanting Dick at the end of the night. You probably never had alcohol before, once you start drinking at parties everything will become easier, socially wise. Keep lifting, bettering your looks. Not going to say you have to drink but if your that desperate, alcohol can make it easier. Stay safe with it though.

If you have to start low on the Totem Pole my guy. Ugly girls are the best way to get into the sexual scene, easier to handle them and not as nerve wracking than hot women. Good luck in college, And ALWAYS wear a condom.

oneredguy · 2018-07-03T03:30:42+00:00

Discover what happens with alcohol.

Also lose some weight.

Whisper · 2018-07-03T04:57:38+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4rqg37/there_is_nothing_i_can_say_to_you_that_will/

Austin2Leader · 2018-07-03T03:06:21+00:00

you're 18... if u really need to get ur virginity out asap go find a hooker. otherwise know that the majority of guys you age havent lost theirs either. the more you pressure yourself the more youll fuck it up for urself. losing ur virginity isnt anything anyone can ever teach u in a class. its only through trial and error and learning from ur experiences that u can get a girl to hook up with u consentually

The_BestUsername · 2018-07-03T04:31:42+00:00

Mate, in all honestly, just fucking chill. I promise you, when you finally do smash a girl, all you're gonna be thinking to yourself is, "wow, that was it? That's what I've been obsessing over all this time?" Seriously bro, you're good. I was like you once, but if you can just try to calm down you'll feel way better, I promise.

Bruchibre · 2018-07-03T05:07:22+00:00

Well it will be all about talking with people without looking awkward, so try to keep it simple. You are tall, that's good for you, should help.

Also an advice: don't tell girls you are virgin, they don't like it. Keep it for yourself. They want a guy who can do something for them, they don't want to be your teacher or anything. Just be cool.

If I could give advice to my 18 self it would be: dress better, cut your hair, stand straight (good posture), do more sport, be more social, don't be shy, talk to girls because they like the attention so just saying hi with a smile make them smile too.

It took me 3 years to learn and apply this. Then I met a girl, got comfortable with her, we got very close, one night we were sitting next to each other, I took her hand, we looked at each other and we kissed. My first time was a disaster, probably about 10 seconds. Still she didn't know it was my first time, I just laughed it off like I'm tired or what, first time with a new girl is often bad anyway.

pyropwner9000 · 2018-07-03T07:16:51+00:00

If you're really self conscious, go see a hooker. Seriously. You want nice hair? Go see a hairdresser. Want some semblance of sexual experience? Go see a hooker, preferably someone with class. Both take confidence and as such, are great learning experiences.

Go into this shit having been laid by a pro, and abundance mentality will partially kick in when you're dealing with a 19yo deer who's never been fucked by anything more than a fumbling beta.

Also, are you actually on the spectrum, or just using a self-diagnosis to avoid blame for not taking the reins soon?

meme_poacher · 2018-07-03T09:48:15+00:00

I am 19 and also a virgin and I have been wanting to ask this question too. I am in my second year of uni and I'm wondering if I'm missing out on life. Most of the advice on this thread says to be more social or just get a hooker and clear your mind. I guess I'll do both.

Shadowrightknight · 2018-07-03T11:12:22+00:00

Why the fuck is everyone so desperate for sex? One night stands are cool but other than that.

I personally dont need it, and what do people think they have over me when they do?

If you have knowledge and money, you are set for life. I get my fulfilment out of working out and other things.

People with asperger naturally have a high brain capacity, so i wouldnt worry too much.

it_takes_the_redpill · 2018-07-03T13:50:29+00:00

What worked for me in a situation similar to yours:

Find some friends on the floor of your dorm that are into drinking.

A few weeks into school, find out when the big dance party's are. Some will be school sanctioned. This is fine. Just needs to be a really big dance party. Now the recipe, with your friends along:

Get drunk enough to dance.
Get drunk enough to dance with women.
Go to said dance party and dance with friends.
Dance with women, getting progressively more touchy. (If you can't do this, you failed step 2).
Make out with one of said girls.
After a bit, ask if they want to come back to your room. If no, repeat from step 4. If yes, continue.
???
Profit.

[deleted] · 2018-07-03T14:40:26+00:00

This is going to get downvoted but there’s no shame in being a virgin at age 18.

If you are ashamed of it, girls will pick up on that insecurity. You’re 18, so that’s pretty normal to be insecure about this.

If you had the frame, I would own it. I don’t mean walk around with a tattoo on your forehead that says, “virgin.” But if you do find a girl you like and she is into you, it might not be the worst idea to say, “hey - this is my first time.”

This is coming from someone who lied about not being a virgin during his first time. Looking back, it might have been a better experience if I was honest about it.

Just my 2 cents.

TonytheNetworker · 2018-07-03T15:02:03+00:00

"I am desperate to have sex not because I feel pressured to, but because I've been curious for the longest time whether or not sex is as good as everyone says it is or if it's just an over hyped biological process."

Nigga, we all know sex feels good. LMAO. Just be real, you feel pressured and want to fit in. Are there any parties you can go to and find some cute thot to bang? Or maybe spend $$ on a good looking hooker if you just care about losing your V-card.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-07-03T15:22:42+00:00

Lose the gut. You mentioned it, so it’s a problem for you. Hint; the problem is your DIET.

Talking to women. Easy. Don’t talk. Listen. Ask great questions. Open ended questions.

What do girls like to talk about?

Everything besides the shit they put in a fucking job application. Don’t interview them.

Ask them about their travel experiences or desires.

Ask them if they can explain the difference between style and fashion to you.

Ask them about their passions, desires, what have they done or want to do.

Get them talking, make them laugh, tease ‘em, and then fuck them in the ass.

[deleted] · 2018-07-03T16:39:41+00:00

I'm 19 and a virgin too. You can't appear desperate or that'll be a huge turnoff to girls. Just party, meet new people and it's inevitable. A lot more virgins enter college than you realize, so you're fine. Graduating college and being a virgin? Then come post back here and let's have a talk.

Focus on school and that thicc engineering degree before girls.

MattyAnon · 2018-07-03T19:33:17+00:00

I'm desperate and need advice on how to lose my virginity

Sex will do this.

. I am 6'2 and weigh about 205 pounds. I have been lifting weights for about a year now but I still have a bit of a gut. I consider myself to be a 5/10 looks wise.

Hair and clothes and you're probably better than this. Tall and a reasonable weight. Although you're right to improve.

I have trouble talking to women.

Most men do. Be attractive.

I am desperate to have sex not because I feel pressured to, but because I've been curious for the longest time whether or not sex is as good as everyone says it is or if it's just an over hyped biological process. Any advice would be appreciated.

Ok. Forget the virginity thing - it's not relevant. Build a lifestyle where you're meeting, dating and fucking women. It's not a small or a trivial thing, but it can be done.

There are no shortcuts... except one: ask out a lot of women. Fundamentally it's a lot of work, but it's worth it both for the women, the sex, and the effects on your life and outlook.

kyzen142 · 2018-07-04T00:22:03+00:00

I know a guy who has asbargers like you and he uses the mystery method I think it is because the mystery method is very technical and structured that it is easy for people with ur condition.

Merwebb · 2018-07-03T04:42:08+00:00

Sex gets better with time. At first is awkward because your body most likely won't know how to process some of the things that are happening.

Stop pressuring yourself, and save up for a hooker if its curiosity about getting it wet that drives you.

Women are more things than just sex, look for what do you really want about them, work on yourself in all areas, forget about sex and sex will happen.

Title	I'm desperate and need advice on how to lose my virginity.
Author	pyropwner9000
Upvotes	15
Comments	36
Date	July 3, 2018 2:56 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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