Details are sparse in both stories, with fewer in the assaulted husband's story than in that of the assaulted wife.
However, I think the comparison between the two is relevant, not so much because the cases themselves have anything to do with each other, but because the difference in handling highlights a huge disparity in the handling of domestic abuse in the state of Ohio.

Husband shot, wife sought in Dayton

This incident occurred this morning, so the information is not all confirmed, but here is the basic story: Cynthia Huffman is accused of shooting her husband in the back as he was trying to leave the house after a fight. He is recovering under hospital care, so it is at least confirmed that somebody did, and at this point, law enforcement appears to be treating the story with no doubt. Huffman did flee the scene of the alleged crime, and is being sought right now. Police are planning to charge her only with felonious assault. Nothing is said about any other charges.

Darke County Man Charged With Attempted Murder

There are more details on this one (though I didn't find the story of whether he was convicted or not) because it's a slightly older story. Justin Douglas Thomas was accused of slapping his wife, then shooting at her and missing. He remained at the scene of the alleged crime to be arrested by officers, and was charged with attempted murder.

In the subsequent arraignment, bond for Thomas was set at a million dollars. This may be reasonable considering the linked story on that page, describing the man as having been in trouble previously for using a gun to abduct and rob his grandfather. (It is of minor note that the grandfather spoke up for Thomas, telling the judge that Thomas is a good guy. Family can be severely biased by love, and not knowing the details of the abduction/robbery case, it's hard to be certain whether those charges are merited or exaggerated, even taking that statement into account.)

Regarding the two stories - I do not take issue with the charges and handling of the Justin Douglas Thomas case. He exhibited violence, fired a gun at a person, and had another allegation of violent behavior pending against him. Law enforcement has little choice on how to handle that, and those circumstances should affect the perception of the accused; he should at least be treated as potentially violent and dangerous, as he has been.

I do not think it is too severe to charge someone with attempted murder for shooting at another person. A gun is a deadly weapon. It is reasonable to consider the act of firing it at another person to be an attempt at murder.

What I do take issue with is the disparity in treatment; if it is attempted murder when a man fires at his wife, then how is it not also attempted murder when a woman shoots her husband? If she fired a deadly weapon at a part of his body containing vital organs, creating for him the risk of death, how is that not attempted murder?

Further, there is a worse aspect to the allegation against Huffman; shooting a fleeing individual in the back. No matter what else happened in the argument, there is no getting around the implications of that. Shooting him in the back is a direct act of aggression, with clear intent to harm indicated by the act. Regardless of whether Thomas's behavior can be considered a deliberate attempt at harm, there is no question that Huffman's behavior was. Because she made the choice to shoot a fleeing person in the back, I think she should be treated with at least the same level of concern and caution as a person with more than one allegation of criminal violence pending, as that also indicates a potentially violent and dangerous personality.

As an Ohioan who has lived in multiple counties and been involved (sometimes peripherally, sometimes more directly) with cases of good men facing false or exaggerated allegations, including in Montgomery county (where Huffman is not being charged with attempted murder, and where I have seen a man - in all seriousness - charged for waving menacingly) and Auglaize county (bordering on Darke, where Thomas was charged) I've seen this kind of disparity quite frequently. When men are charged, domestic abuse victim's advocacy organizations get involved, using their collective, fund-driven voices to push law enforcement and the courts to step up their handling of these cases. When women are charged, those voices offer only small, token advocacy, and often fall completely silent, leaving the victims of those abusers to fight for themselves. As a result, our law enforcement and legal system, at the municipal and county level across much of the state, does not treat violence against men as seriously as it treats violence against women.