WWYD? TV Show - Girlfriend Kicking Her Boyfriend's Ass - 163 People Just Walk By

ANEPICLIE · 2012-07-16T03:46:40+00:00

It's absurd that such a double standard exists. It's the same thing with rape allegations. It could never be predatory to a man, could it?

petedacook · 2012-07-16T05:52:45+00:00

What bothers me about this is the women that say they wondered what he did to make her behave that way.

Demonspawn · 2012-07-16T04:05:54+00:00

I love it when the cop doesn't do anything nor call 911... and the woman he's with (wife?) "I'd find it more upsetting if he was putting his hands on her."

PeterArching · 2012-07-16T17:42:05+00:00

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2012-07-17T05:01:17+00:00

It wouldn't occur to me to intervene. I'll be honest. I'm not saying how I feel is right or wrong, just being honest about my thought processes, which are of course based on my own experience. Namely:

No woman has ever gotten physically violent with me. My subconscious assumption (and I get that this is problematic, but it is indicative of how our experiences program us) would be that for a woman to behave that way, the guy must have done something really, really fucked up -- this assumption is a product of my experience. Of course, men who were beaten by abusive mothers who suffer physical abuse from their wives, for example, are probably unlikely to make this assumption and find my way of thinking horrifying. Yet, my own experience is that 100% of the time (save a few slaps from my mother growing up) it was men getting violent with me, threatening me with violence, or otherwise using violence to get their way. Like most people I got into fights in school - always with other boys.
I would assume that no man would want another man to intervene on his behalf, for fear of implicating his "manliness," which is also a strange standard. I do know I would not want someone to intervene if I was the man in that situation, unless it involved the kind of physical assault which could injure me severely (like with a knife). My impulse would go the other way if it was a woman - I would intervene; I have the same double standard as the cop in this video.

People have to stop assaulting each other, period.

I've been long fascinated with the automatic processes in terms of how we think -- our prejudices, assumptions, and so forth. I think the key in this instance is to stop and step back from one's own experience and look at things as objectively as possible. Here, people seemed to mostly be reacting to the situation, save the women who powwowed at a distance.

Making that a habit, that's the hard part.

Title	WWYD? TV Show - Girlfriend Kicking Her Boyfriend's Ass - 163 People Just Walk By
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Upvotes	25
Comments	9
Date	July 16, 2012 3:21 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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