Paranoid people are out to prevent my success

Atlas-XIII · 2016-04-20T13:59:51+00:00

Get away with the whole world is against me,so i cant trust anyone mentality ,its bullshiy and its an illusion. The world is as it is.You cant change it but you can change yourself and your enviroment.Start improving yourself by finding a purpose

LeanRammus · 2016-04-20T14:12:05+00:00

This is a matter of authenticity. There is a philosopher named Jean-Paul Sartre who dealt with this idea fairly well, and is relevant to the question you're asking. The principle of this concept is that people generally fail to be authentic both with others and their own selves. You might benefit from reading some of his works, I certainly did.

He wrote in one of his plays, "Hell is other people."

In regards to how you should apply TRP to allay you trust concerns, just understand that most people are not conscious of their own behavior, as such, you are at a psychological advantage. That is, what they do is part of their 'programming' so to speak, and their day-to-day actions and interactions are very predictable. Use this to your advantage by telling people things, and doing things, that you would want them to spread around, that way, you can have an element of control over the nature of information about you that is being disseminated.

Be aware however that rumor sharing is a game of Chinese Whispers, and the stories that you share with someone are subject to mutation there from.

Understand also when people talk about you it's a good thing. There is no such thing as bad press, and all attention is powerful to raise your social standing. Your frame decides how rumors affect your reputation. If your frame is strong, rumors will strengthen you, or at the very worst will merely deflect from you--but if your frame is weak, then even the most trivial rumor could potentially collapse your already feeble reputation.

You might also benefit from understanding the variable dynamics of conversation. Learn the intricacies of powertalk, posturetalk, and babytalk. I recommend starting here and here.

Title	Paranoid people are out to prevent my success
Author	LeanRammus
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	April 20, 2016 1:50 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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