My Jewish cousin is pregnant. The gender has yet to be determined, but assuming it's a boy, what do I say to her and how do I say it?

mcas1208 · 2011-02-22T14:15:08+00:00

Mazel tov!

and if its a girl...

Mazel tov!

Quazz · 2011-02-22T15:33:32+00:00

Mazel tov in either case.

silveradocoa · 2011-02-22T15:00:14+00:00

congratulations?

BolshevikMuppet · 2011-02-22T21:34:41+00:00

Congratulate her, wish her the best, and keep your nose the hell out of it. This would be like someone on the other side hearing your wife's pregnant and trying to persuade you to get the lad circumcised, it's simply rude.

Basically, what you'd be saying is "I don't believe you're smart, mature, or rational enough to have made a thoughtful decision about this". If you don't respect her, why should she listen to you? If you do respect her, why do you need to try to persuade her?

Demonspawn · 2011-02-22T15:41:51+00:00

Tell her give the mohel a good tip.

Seriously tho, this is a hard one. The child is theirs. While I feel circumcision (or any other body part removal) for non-medical reasons should be outlawed, currently it is legal. As such, it's their kid to screw up in any manner they see fit ;)

I guess, if it is a boy, ask them if they are going to circumcise their daughter if they have a girl next. Just leave it at that and let them make up their own mind.

pcarvious · 2011-02-22T18:31:41+00:00

Your cousin has the right to follow their religious preferences. That said, a lot of what is wrong with circumcision is that the child isn't given a choice. I don't know what to tell you here other than to support the child. If it's a boy it's going to face a hell of a lot more than a circumcision by the time the various systems in the US are through with it.

Ortus · 2011-02-22T16:18:18+00:00

Well if educating christian, and even non religious parents about this is hard enough...

jelliedbabies · 2011-02-22T21:02:15+00:00

It's going to be harder to convince someone who does it for religious reasons than it is to convince someone who does it for no reason at all. I don't think anythings going to effect their choice. Even FGM is still carried out for cultural reason while illegal the world over. You just don't win these ones.

AnnArchist · 2011-02-22T15:13:13+00:00

Jewish? At least he gets to wait until he's a young adult to get circumcized

flip69 · 2011-02-22T20:39:47+00:00

I would address her concept of religion first and foremost. If possible swing her to atheism the religious and cultural ethnic traditions will then fall in short order.

Frankly this all may be too late. If she believes the myths and traditions or that the concept of "blood purity" is strong in her she'll most likely follow the tradition of mutilating the child according to the written directives.

kloo2yoo · 2011-02-22T20:20:01+00:00

wait until someone else mentions the bris, then chuckle aloud with a bit about how a male, all-knowing god made everything perfect, except the definitely "male" part of the infant child. "let yourself" be pushed into stating your opinions on circumcision.

Title	My Jewish cousin is pregnant. The gender has yet to be determined, but assuming it's a boy, what do I say to her and how do I say it?
Author	WantsHisForeskinBack
Upvotes	7
Comments	31
Date	February 22, 2011 2:12 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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