Of course, it's men's responsibility to give women orgasms... those silly girls can't do anything for themselves! /sarcasm

jelliedbabies · 2010-12-05T01:40:50+00:00

The thing is that unless as a woman you get on top, give him a blowjob or other manual stimulation he is using your body to give himself orgasms and you really need to get the "he's had his I deserve mine" attitude out of your heads.

If you want to have your orgasm use him to get one. You know your own body so direct him, give feedback, take full control or masturbate. Don't expect to cum if you're not willing to put just as much effort into it as he did.

BolshevikMuppet · 2010-12-04T06:49:48+00:00

You're honest-to-god objecting to the idea that during sex a man has a responsibility to give his partner pleasure? Are you fucking kidding me?

Yes, a woman can bring herself to orgasm without a man. And a man can bring himself to orgasm without a woman. But, imagine the situation were reversed, and your wife/girlfriend/fling said "I'm going to let you make me come, but then you'll have to stop and just finish yourself off". You'd be infuriated.

Yes, if you're the type of porn-star-stamina he-men who can orgasm, and then continue to pleasure her , go for it. But, for most guys, when they come, they're done. That's why most guys who care about their partner's pleasure make sure she comes first (literally and figuratively).

Also, from a purely pragmatic perspective: a woman you've pleased in the past on multiple occasions is more likely to eagerly do naughtier stuff.

2010-12-04T20:35:20+00:00

If I've just spent half an hour or an hour licking a woman to one or more orgasms, then she has no business complaining if I can't make her come just by fucking her. She had hers. Now it's my turn.

Hindu_Wardrobe · 2010-12-04T05:47:48+00:00

Sex should be a mutual thing. She gives him an orgasm, he gives her one. Of course there are many variations of who is giving what to whom, but as long as both partners are happy who the fuck cares?

mean0dean0 · 2010-12-05T09:06:35+00:00

this whole thread needs to die.

mean0dean0 · 2010-12-04T04:39:38+00:00

DAE get tired of supposed "love doctors" whose only advice is "try harder!" I am just in awe of how little women are at all involved in the discussion this asshat is having about women's sexual desire.

EDIT: Best line:

Otherwise you have to ring her bell. No option on this at all. If she's expecting orgasm, you really have to try and make that happen.

Because she certainly can't do it for herself, can she?

zyk0s · 2010-12-04T21:31:22+00:00

If you look at it this pragmatically, with a binary "he got off/she didn't", you're doing it wrong.

This comes from "marriedmansexlife", so it's not a stretch to think we're talking here about sex in an intimate, emotional relationship. Where did the emotions go? If you start the act with the goal of getting her there first, then making sure you have some, it has nothing to do with making love anymore, but more of a marital chore.

It is important that you make your lady partner happy, and she very understandably can get frustrated when she sees her man having an orgasm and not experiencing one herself. But does that mean it was a good one for him? It is impossible to equate the feelings of pleasure of the two genders, but both partners should strive at making the whole experience happy for everyone. Foreplay, closeness, kisses and loving words, a whole world of body language is available to heighten the experience for both of them. They should know each other, know how they work and what gets them there. And if they do, and get skilled at it, they will orgasm at the same time, and will likely be immensely more satisfied than if they had done it sequentially.

Title	Of course, it's men's responsibility to give women orgasms... those silly girls can't do anything for themselves! /sarcasm
Author	mean0dean0
Upvotes	0
Comments	22
Date	December 4, 2010 4:37 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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