Fight Little Battles: Man Appalled at Women-only Lunch at Work

mannix · 2009-04-21T17:47:03+00:00

I thought it was being blown out of proportion before I actually read what was going on. So basically the men are going to be picking up the slack for the women who are taking time off to do this, they're indirectly paying for it by company funds that should be used for everyone being put into it, and to add additional insult it was supposed to be kept secret from the men.

Personally I wouldn't care too much right up until the part where I'd have to pick up the slack for the women who were getting paid extra to goof off.

PierceHarlan · 2009-04-21T13:57:58+00:00

I am astounded that in this day and age, a woman in a supervisory position feels justified in practicinng gender discrimination. It seems that some women don't understand that the rules are not there just to benefit women. The advice given was correct. The complaint needs to be handled through ordinary channels and escalated if necessary.

dakboy · 2009-04-21T11:11:13+00:00

The "advisor" tells the man looking for help to bring it to his supervisor. This will only end in an ugly confrontation. If the person organizing these lunches were a peer of the concerned individual, that would be OK - since it's his supervisor, he needs to go to her supervisor, or preferably to HR.

This isn't a "little battle", it's an important one.

justpickaname · 2009-04-21T18:18:40+00:00

Wow, she had a espenses paid, woman-only lunch and manicures, and she is a company VICE PRESIDENT. I figured she was some little management flunky who hadn't paid attention in training. That's outrageous.

Oh, and she told the women who were invited to LIE to the men if they asked where they were going. Tell them you have an off-site meeting!

rems · 2009-04-21T12:55:52+00:00

fuck that advice, go over her head straight away. there was nothing mistaken here, her actions are entirely premeditated. make an example of her.

shinynew · 2009-04-21T15:22:02+00:00

Step 1) Swap the race/gender in all questions

Step 2) Ask the concerned party if it is raciest/sexist.

He should set up a (fake) men only lunch and see what she says.

zoomzoom83 · 2009-04-21T13:32:44+00:00

I can understand wanting to have some kind of "Female Bonding" experience- fair enough.

But throw a BBQ for the guys as well.

inferno0000 · 2009-04-24T06:21:11+00:00

If HR isn't responding, the answer is a men only lunch - go to a steakhouse. That'll get everyone's attention.

BinaryShadow · 2009-04-21T14:35:55+00:00

I work in an industry where women are still very poorly represented (<20% of employees are women). As a result, there are a lot of women-specific organizations and women-specific events trying to build a support network for women, brainstorm ways to educate/recruit more women, etc.

Often these meetings include a dinner or an event of some sort. Men are not invited. Would you guys say in this context that this constitutes "discrimination"?

Title	Fight Little Battles: Man Appalled at Women-only Lunch at Work
Author	BinaryShadow
Upvotes	62
Comments	39
Date	April 21, 2009 10:56 AM UTC (17 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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