Just recently, after a vacation with my current I got pretty ill. We don't live together and I'm in the military, so she only saw me too weak to think or barely lift my suitcase for about 5 hours before I headed back home. But just that short amount of time was enough for her to go from very submissive and quiet to nagging and even bringing up that since then she hasn't thought of me as a dominant. (we live a bdsm lifestyle) During the time I tried to be strong and stand on my own and take care of as much as I could, but I could barely do anything.