So I (26F) have been dating this guy (30) for a bout a month now. It's so far the most emotionally available person I've ever met and been with. We have an amazing communication, don't hold anything back and feel like we understand each other fully. We both like each other very much and it seems like it might have a future. Well while everything sounds so perfect, I have a feeling that something is off. He is extremely sensitive to the point that he messes things up because of that. He tries his best doing gestures for me, cooks for me, makes drinks, always invites me over or somewhere, wants to see me almost everyday, texts all day, he is always being romantic, cries when he can't perform as he expected in bed(?!). He is a great guy, I am sure of that. But, sometimes I try to tell him something important about me, want to share a bad feeling or something, he doesn't react the way I would expect him or anyone to react. I'll explain with an example. I have several mental health issues like depression, anxiety, borderline etc. and I do share my experiences with him from time to time. For instance I tell him something like "oh I've been having an anxiety attack" he first asks ''what happened" and seems interested so I tell him "well there was a trigger hours ago but it's not going away" he sends me a song to make me feel better? like?? I would expect him to continue the conversation right? I mean most people would do that. At least I would. What I need there to be listened, not a damn song. The first time I told him I'm going through major depression and I'm on meds. He listened and without saying anything about that, he started to tell me a story about how he got into a depression and why. He ended the monologue with "so you're not alone". In his mind he showed me he feels for me but I felt so ignored. This type of stuff happens quite often where he seems dismissive of what I say. Same thing happens when I reply his texts with compliments with compliments back, he doesn't answer to those either, just says something else as if I didn't say a nice thing. I feel dismissed and not cared about what I say. But because he does aaaaall those other stuff to the point he overwhelms me with his affection, I'm not sure whether he just doesn't know how to deal with important stuff and compliments or he is just love bombing me. I have been with narcissists before and this one is not even close to them, so I don't think that's it. I opened up about this, told him with examples how I feel ignored in those situations and if this is the way he deals with stuff I don't think this will work etc. he acknowledged and thought I was right, apologized and promised to be more aware of his reactions. But then the anxiety thing happened after that for example. So I'm really confused you guys. I feel like he is genuine for real, but this problem with the way ignores these kinda stuff really worries me. Sometimes it feels like he is trying to show me how much he cares about me and how much of a perfect boyfriend he would be more than he listens to me and understands me. Even though he keeps telling me he wants to know me more and listen to me. I think he might have issues with who he is and doesn't want me to know that so he covers up with trying to be perfect which I called out several times and asked him not to try to be perfect, I like him the way he is. While this sounds like a narcissist, I think a real narc would try to seem more interested when he is not. He on the hand doesn't try in that part. That doesn't explain the ignoring pattern. I want to see where this goes, I want him in my life but I dont wanna find myself suffering later. Any advice is welcome, but I would appreciate it if you guys don't just say he is trash or dump him without telling me why. I need some analysis here. Let me know if you see a huge red flag or a possible explanation to this. Thank you <3