Science Direct defines patriarchy as, "a system of relationships, beliefs, and values embedded in political, social, and economic systems that structure gender inequality between men and women. Attributes seen as 'feminine' or pertaining to women are undervalued, while attributes regarded as 'masculine' or pertaining to men are privileged. Patriarchal relations structure both the private and public spheres, ensuring that men dominate both." Link to page

In this post, I will outline why this ideology, which has driven one of the biggest political movements of our time for more than a hundred years, is radically narrow-minded, reprehensibly misandric, and utterly incorrect.

I will be attacking the theory from multiple angles; first, the idea that, "Men dominate the private and public sphere." As seen here, women dominate multiple fields of work . Women are 80% of elementary school teachers (except special ed), meaning they have a significant impact on the next generation. There is bias against boys in education. Men do not 'dominate' women and the education system has been failing them for 30 years.

One in five children is being raised by a single parent, with 80% of them being single mothers. Dad-deprivation is one of the single biggest factors of a boy struggling in life, as outlined by Dr. Warren Farrell in his book, 'The Boy Crisis' You can find him talking about it here. As we can see, the biggest issue in society right now is a lack of masculinity, not a need for redefinition of it.

"But more men are CEOs and engineers!" feminists will say. "This clearly means men are oppressing women!" but they're not. Men and women have different temperaments on average. These differences manifest especially at the extremes, as explained here. This explains why the most disagreeable, most conscientious people are men, which is why they're CEOs. As James Q Wilson remarked, "There are more male geniuses and more male idiots." Here's an article outlining the topic.

As for career choices, these are not because of 'the system' brainwashing men and women to choose different paths with stereotypes. Sex differences in academic achievement are not related to political, economic, or social equality. As countries become more egalitarian, the differences between the sexes increases, which directly disproves patriarchy theory's statement that inequalities in outcome are caused by inequalities in opportunity caused by 'the system'. The study proving it is here. More relevant links can be found in the description of this video.

As can be clearly seen, men and women are different, and expecting equal outcomes is counter-intuitive. We have to choose between equality of opportunity and equality of outcome. I choose the former. Feminists choose the latter, which inevitably leads to discrimination against men and denying them opportunities with quotas and such.

Next up, the "wage gap". As proven here, men and women have different median earnings due to personal choices, not systemic discrimination, even in India, where I'm from. "Well, those choices are due to the patriarchy!" feminists will say after all those years of insisting that the only reason for the wage gap is sexism, like a fundamentalist Christian seeing a dinosaur fossil and saying, "Well, God put them there to test our faith! The world is 6000 years old!". As I have already said, these choices are not due to patriarchy, but due to differences between men and women. Women opt for work-life balance more than men do, as outlined here. The solution to this, according to feminists, is to make women work more and in higher paying jobs. This is in direct contradiction to their anti-capitalistic notions. They are, in their own words, putting masculine values above feminine ones.

Lastly, "In 91 (68%) of the 131 countries, men were on average more disadvantaged than women, and in the other 43 (32%) countries, women were more disadvantaged than men" (Link to study). The very fact that men are systematically discriminated against, even in India (part 1 and part 2) is directly against the notion of a patriarchy (unless you are prejudiced against men, that is). Let me explain that last part:

So, apparently, men are evil and competent enough to brainwash women into having, "internalized misogyny". They abuse women to assert their dominance in the broader context of society, even though domestic violence is gender symmetric (This and this too). Men work against women. Mothers apparently have had no influence on their children throughout history. Queens never existed.

Despite all this, men are apparently so incredibly idiotic that they have created a system that disadvantages them in so many ways, just so they could keep their precious male privilege. Men are apparently so incompetent and only think with their dong to the point where they spend multiple months of their salary on a shiny rock to impress their slaves. Men truly are the worst oppressors in history, worthy of genociding, as Sally Miller Gearhart so eloquently put it.

This isn't even the first time that the followers of patriarchy theory have said and done misandric things. Feminism as a movement was founded on patriarchy theory. Oh, but feminists only oppose the system, not men, right? Well, that's up for debate. Now you might see why I'm not a feminist.

In conclusion, to believe in patriarchy theory, one must refuse to acknowledge reality, be misandric, or both. Is it any surprise that male friendly psychologists reject it?