I may delete this post later and this isn't my main account, but I felt compelled to say that I appreciate the existence of this sub and it's aggressive and unapologetic attitude to not tolerate mistreatment and to demand more of themselves and others. I don't agree with every single thing on here, but I have found myself at times upvoting nearly every post and comment because they ring too true to my own experiences.

Like many women here, I've experienced manipulation, verbal abuse, threats, gaslighting, and rape in my dating history and it's really worn me down. Looking at the sub for relationships, which I've posted in before too, there are too many horrific stories of women questioning whether they deserve better than the squalid treatment they've gotten. Personally, I've gone through so much therapy trying to learn to have compassion for myself and to learn what healthy boundaries are.

Thank you to the mods for this community that focuses on educating women that yes, we are entitled to our standards, boundaries, to protecting ourselves from exploitation of our bodies and time, and that we need to take responsibility into our own hands to be better and stop tolerating bullshit from men and other women.

Some things that I read here that have stuck with me are, "If he wanted to, he would," and "Not all men commit violence against women, but all men benefit." My takeaway is that I'm way better off spending all the time and money on myself than on someone who only takes and never gives.

Anyways, thanks for reading and I hope to all the lovely folks that you have a nice rest of your weekend.