So my gf came to me the other day and raised this with me and i think she has a point but dont know how to go about it. Shes constantly buying me gifts, paying for dinner, making me breakfast in bed, nice little surprises out of the blue etc. Even booked us surprise accomodation to spend the weekend away recently, complete with a couple little lingere numbers and some kinky sex shit. i don't do much in return.

She was saying how i should do somethings for her to help sometimes like just mow the lawn at her house or pick her a flower or something. (I spend alot more time at her place than she does mine). But in my experience, every time i do do shit for her it is severly under appreciated and sets a standard that she gets mad at if i dont do it continuously.

Eg. The other night i went out in the dark to get more fire wood for her (i dont feel the cold so couldnt care less) and she cracked it that i got the wrong kind of wood. (She wanted hard wood or something apparently i got soft wood) so i just put it down where i was and left it. The wood stayed in that spot in the hallway for a week and even after all that time she was still adamant that her anger was justified.

Eg. 2 Made the bed a couple times in the mornings. Super appreciative first couple times. Then one day i was in a rush and forgot and i get this paragraph long text later about how my not making the bed was me trying to intentionally hurt her or some shit.

So what do i do? Not going to put up with her shit when she goes power hungry but she does do a lot for me. It seems like i can't do a whole lot in return because of this 'give her an inch, she takes a mile' mentality.

I was thinking that i would not put up with her shit when she has a female moment but still occasionally getting her flowers or something nice while still maintaining rp principals (text less, initiate less, less i love yous, less effort etc. Etc.)