We always hear how the patriarchy oppresses women, how women have no voice and how men are in control etc.

The fact that feminism is a thing proves that patriarchy doesn't exist - if it did, then feminism would be a thing and would have been crushed the instant it was formed (since the patriarchy oppresses women and feminism tries to stop that oppression).

Also more women are in STEM fields, colleges and are actually out earning men in some cases.