Discussions around weight

LateralThinker13 · 2021-09-15T18:36:35+00:00

it’s worth noting that I’ve seen enough comments with tones of subtle weight shaming in a couple posts I’ve seen in the last month or two.

Subtle? Forget that. I'll say it clearly now, as I've said in the past. If you're overweight, 95% chance that's on you. It's your shame, not a hormonal problem and not "big bones" or bad genes. It's too many calories, it's a carb-rich diet, it's not exercising enough, and all three of those are on you. Yes, a small percentage of women have unmanageable conditions - endocrine issues, a giant tumor, whatever. But most - including those with things like PCOS - have FULL control over their bodies. It's manageable. They just won't do enough to manage it, full stop.

Call me a fat shamer if you like. The core of red pill anything is to call truth as it is, not to shade it, not to soften it, not to lie about it.

Worse yet, it would be awful for these comments to inadvertently cause someone to spiral or feel like they can only land a man if they’re under 120lbs.

NO ONE says this. What we say is truth: that the closer you are to a healthy body weight, the better. Overweight and Obese are not healthy body weights; neither is anorexia.

Men blind FROM BIRTH prefer a WHR of 0.7, not today's fat positive poster children. To fight this is to fight biology and reality.

this is one of the areas I feel it may be worth treading a bit more sensitively/carefully.

Tone policing is one of the first steps to censoring speech - or worse. This is how we get HAAS and Body Positivity. No, you AREN'T healthy if you weigh 300lbs, period.

Maybe even adding a ‘CW or TW’ around posts regarding diet or weight?

More liberal speech control. No. If you're that sensitive, get desensitization therapy. Your hangups aren't everybody's problem. This entitlement, btw, to force others to change to you, rather than you adapting to the group, is unhealthy in and of itself.

girlwithasidecar · 2021-09-15T18:35:01+00:00

People should be responsible for themselves. If you can't read about weight issues, then don't read posts where weight is an issue.

Trigger warning ask other people to be responsible for your feelings and don't belong on an RP sub.

softrevolution_ · 2021-09-15T19:26:22+00:00

The reason I have never felt at ease in traditional pro-recovery spaces is because every little thing has to be splatted or trigger-warned for, so perhaps you can imagine my chagrin at being told to warn here, of all places, the one place left where that's not a ginormous deal.

Weight, as we both know, is something a person can change. If a person comes in here talking about how they're worried that their weight is too high -- am I going to lie to them and give them the old fat-lib line? No. I'm going to preach the gospel of CICO and hope they do something for themselves before they end up like my dad almost did, and my grandmother really did. Unless you think it's cool to give people advice that leads to a catastrophic stroke followed by a series of heart attacks and never being able to function on your own again.

dadudenines · 2021-09-15T19:17:38+00:00

This is one of those "Let's put feelz before realz" type requests.

Don't do that here. There is plenty of that out in the blue pill echo chambers.

Weight beyond a certain point will negatively affect anyone's SMV and RMV. Just accept that. If people posted their BMI here first thing before writing the rest of their posts, the correlation to dating, relationship and marriage difficulties would correlated very well. An inability to regulate one's fitness will unfortunately translate into other areas of life.

This is similar to blue pillers denying IQ, yet one could plot performance fairly well against it and just throw out all the prejudice in education, hiring, etc. out the window. But people favor the more subjective explanations: r/fatlogic

Title	Discussions around weight
Author	RiseAndPanic
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	September 15, 2021 6:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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