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So, you were right. Not about hating men because I have too many in my life that are good, but about not accepting relationships that hurt us. Those that we ignore and justify its flags. Dammit you were right.

astrovixen

September 22, 2021

34 upvotes

And I am so so happy to be wrong.

And I knew you weren't incorrect in the majority of your messages, I knew that it was borne from needing to protect ourselves against all the forms of misuse, abuse, violence, but I justified everything anyway. And yes it's because my heart trusts, but also that I wasn't yet ready to love me because overcoming the challenges we face can be a long process, and I just wasn't there yet, that I was building to me as I am now.

And I am now unapologetic as fuck. Finally.

And just as it is said endlessly in lots of different ways... It is not until you are ready to love yourself that you will stop choosing those not worthy of you. And what a fucking difference.

You beautiful bitches and witches and all those who pulled up their own britches... I fucking love you.

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Title	So, you were right. Not about hating men because I have too many in my life that are good, but about not accepting relationships that hurt us. Those that we ignore and justify its flags. Dammit you were right.
Author	astrovixen
Upvotes	34
Comments	8
Date	September 22, 2021 10:21 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/pt4is0/so_you_were_right_not_about_hating_men_because_i/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/so-you-were-right-not-about-hating-men-because-i.1075010 https://theredarchive.com/post/1075010

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[–]IronsculptureFDS Newbie 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[+]astrovixenFDS Newbie[S] -9 points-8 points-7 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]honestlyidkfrFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]astrovixenFDS Newbie[S] -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

I am not here to fight you. And I am respecting you even if I explain my thought process, but you are welcome to take it as such. If, finally, a woman such as yourself stands up and says that that they are finally done with the toxic nature of men, and you come onto her thread and say your peace, which you are entitled to, and I am showing you respect for, then you are here to bring me down, why? You and all can have your opinion, but right now in this context, you are what you preach against. And it is my right to say so. I will end up in the negative, that's fine, but you will never see me go after you and bring you down because my opinion of a word means more than yours. But also, like I said, I am learning to apologise to no one, and right now, I feel no need to apologise to you. And maybe, just maybe, instead of getting defensive and retaliate, you afford me the same courtesy. Yes? No? Doesn't matter. Neither of our opinions are gilded in gold, and me saying the word bitches in a term of endearment and power is my journey of self healing. You do you, and I will celebrate for you, but I don't need your argument here. But you and all are welcome to it. I explain myself because that's how I learn and grow. I listen to others and I choose to hear them and respect their right. The day you shit gold you come to me and tell me how I should live. Oh wait, you don't want to hear that thats what we fight against against men. Nor does my logic, which is sound, form any sort of new understanding for you, does it?

Too much energy in the wrong thing here. I had taken your thoughts on board and validated them from a place of genuine understanding. You carry on because what? Because I hurt you personally by saying it? Not here with me tonight. Not interested. But yes, I do and will always explain myself. That is civility. Your justification to continue fighting me is what?

Edit to add: I actually will always apologise when I'm in the wrong. But this isn't that time.

[–]IronsculptureFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]astrovixenFDS Newbie[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]europoor24Pickmeisha™️ 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link