Instead of a friendly vibe, how can I give off more of a lover/sexual/romantic one?

Shamlei · 2016-07-02T20:02:36+00:00

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JackGetsIt · 2016-07-02T21:40:05+00:00

You just need to use more sexual language or at least innuendo as early as possible. You need to escalate very early, read the top post of redpill right now. Watch Entourage. Notice how if Vince likes a girl he always makes sure she know's it early on. It sounds like you still fear rejection.

EnduroRacer · 2016-07-02T19:59:20+00:00

Stop being the funny guy start being more clear with your intentions. Be direct, if she's into you, she'll respond well. If not, move on

2016-07-03T00:32:38+00:00

Stop suppressing your urges to touch her

Tamarin24 · 2016-07-02T23:01:36+00:00

Slow down a bit and break the touch barrier.

rubenbrasil · 2016-07-02T20:30:01+00:00

Its in the eye contact and connection. Are they connecting with a friendly man or a sexual creature?

Krunjar · 2016-07-03T00:04:38+00:00

I had the same problem, but one thing thats been working for me is to remember why I'm talking to them in the first place.

It sounds simple but it changes the way you behave, on a subtle level, but, thats good because you don't want to be too overt (escalation should start with small things and build up to the bigger things smoothly).

Basically remember that you think they're sexy, and they turn you on, rather than having the frame of mind of being friends first. Really all you have to do is treat them like friends but communicate on a subconscious level (through body language/eye contact and so on), that you want it to be sexual. The way you naturally do that is to allow your feelings of sexual desire for them to exist, rather than burying them.

If you see them in this way, you will naturally flirt and make more sexual eye contact, and body language. When you see them as friends, it feel safer, because you're not risking rejection in a sexual nature, but you will subtly communicate that, so when you move in for a kiss from that, its too abrupt.

So, when you escalate with kino, and when you go in for a kiss, it doesn't take them too much by surprise, because they have already been getting strong subconscious signals from you, and so in their minds they expect it to escalate. Its a much smoother process than going from being a "friend", to all of a sudden being sexual.

This way you can be who you want to be, you can just be yourself, but you will be your "sexual self", instead of the "friend self". Also remember to escalate, if you just stay with the eye contact and body language, it will be weird if it goes nowhere for too long. Always keep that, but add in some kino if you're getting positive response from her. It doesn't have to take long, you can do it all in a few minutes if shes into you and doesn't mind moving fast (just calibrate to the type of girl you're with).

2016-07-03T01:57:57+00:00

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empatheticapathetic · 2016-07-02T22:58:12+00:00

I used to be this. After reading mountains of TRP posts I've naturally become more restrained in my behaviour and naturally it's turned more sexual (or so I believe). I'm still funny but I try to be less 'clownish' and more 'polarising'.

I have friends who are clear alpha pussy slayers but that's all their behaviour allows. I'd rather be in the middle and have fun with people than be a wooden quiet reserved alpha but maybe I'm still learning.

jdgalt · 2016-07-03T01:23:21+00:00

Make your joking more sexual. Make your teasing more physical. Add a few appraising glances. It doesn't need to be a huge change.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-07-03T08:36:25+00:00

Amused Mastery. Go watch the James Bond films, especially the early ones with Sean Connery.

Listen to good comedy and break it down as to why it works. Work on dropping double entendres and sexualizing your humor in a lighter way, i.e., not stupid, gross or obvious. Much like with food, it's in the presentation.

Title	Instead of a friendly vibe, how can I give off more of a lover/sexual/romantic one?
Author	AdventureIsHere
Upvotes	21
Comments	28
Date	July 2, 2016 7:21 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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