How do I get over the fact that no one not even my mother cares about how I feel or my general happiness.

tenchineuro · 2021-10-16T03:15:34+00:00

No one has ever cared. But that does not don't matter if you care.

Women are used to a vast social support network, men don't have that, so the best you can do is to build your own support network and get on with life.

Yeah, I know, this is not a pep talk, but reality is what it is.

You can also go MGTOW or at least find some hobbies to keep yourself busy.

imextremelymoderate · 2021-10-16T05:04:05+00:00

Don't worry your reaction is totally normal. The soul crushing sensation is part of realizing the truth of our situation as men. Follow through with it to come out on the other side

c4944e830acd · 2021-10-16T07:48:52+00:00

Join the club. None of my family members care about my destroyed family situation. No one wants to provide any support to me to fight my ex for full custody of my children. Even my own parents have taken her side, and just expect me to produce results. Not a single person in the world can simply shut up and empathize with me. Life sucks as a man. For most people, men are just disposable.

mdarli0 · 2021-10-16T02:05:29+00:00

You create your own happiness and warmth and you do it for you, embody what you want from people, if you want love then spread the love, if you want happiness then do what makes you happy, regardless of your ego, regardless of societal norms, do what you desire, get rid if the idea that people should care about you and your feelings, because they owe you nothing in the same way that you owe them nothing, emotional support is not transactional, love, warmth, happiness, is not a product for consumption, it's not a commodity.

mikesteane · 2021-10-16T02:33:30+00:00

How old are you?

Futurefrog38785 · 2021-10-16T03:25:12+00:00

My suggestion would be to do something that takes your mind off things , anything you like , Be it joining a community you like ,following something you want to do , following an old passion anything , make friends in whatever you are doing , hang out more often with your old friends too , if you are working anywhere or studying , Focus on that too . Keep your days doing some activity or other , keep em busy ......

If someone is constantly saying anything too you to do something cause you're a boy , just tell them would you hv said the same thing to a female and , if they say yes just tell them to tell it to your sister or neighbour or something , that will shut them up ........

Apart from that I know this ain't the best of times but just stay calm , everyone goes through this ......

Flashy_Glove6208 · 2021-10-16T11:34:31+00:00

Keep yourself busy, join a sports/ gym/ martial arts club. Physical effort sweats stress hormones and release endorfins.

Hang around with men who are positive and can give you guidance.

Call immediately a suicide helpline in your country if you have self deletion thoughts.

AmmaronsRepository · 2021-10-16T13:12:32+00:00

That’s not a crisis, it’s a revelation. Every man is either crushed by it or strengthened by it. Find some good classics, join the gym, join any gym, really. Go hiking and bike riding and do anything else you can to stay busy. And say hello to everybody you meet with a smile on your face. Never turn down an invitation, and never say no to anybody who needs your help, even if they’re the people you think who care about you the least. And for gods sake‘s, don’t shack up with the first woman who curls herself around your leg.

thelawlessatlas · 2021-10-16T07:24:16+00:00

My heart sincerely goes out to you and I know this sounds like an empty platitude - but you haven't met the right women. I have a brother and a husband and a son and I care immensely about how they feel, but I also completely and wholly reject feminism - which has taught women that men don't matter and women don't need them, but that's not at all true. Your enemy is feminism, not women. Feminism has duped the women of our society into believing that they can act like men and fulfill the roles of men and that that will replace men completely, but not all women believe in this line of b*******. There are women out there like myself who love and embrace being a woman and recognize that women need men and that they need men who are men and that men matter, and you will find one one day.

KurashiDragon · 2021-10-16T09:53:07+00:00

Ah that awkward feeling of not wanting to KYS but desperately wanting to get run over by a truck. I remember that feeling well. I don't wanna say I entirely got over that feeling but I've found some ways to not really think to much about it. I got a new job which helped a lot. I've also been steadily losing weight sense I walk to and from work now. Exercise and hard work helped alleviate that feeling. Though that's more of a general, I did this and now I'm better kind of thought. I think what really helped me was when I took a trade school class. It got me away from my old haunts, helped me meet new people, figure out some things that I'm good at, develop new skills, *That I probably wont ever use sense my current job has nothing to do with that class* and most importantly, find people who sympathize with my plights.

I'm not saying go back to school but maybe try to do something different. Being in a rut, staying in bed / at home all day, ect. These things tend to make those depressing thoughts creep up on you and get stronger and stronger until they overwhelm you.

BlodyBorin · 2021-10-16T10:23:12+00:00

After the depression and anger you finally can see the handful who have cared all along. I have two friends and one of my sisters who care about me, but it took years following my divorce to be happy with that.

It's not fair. Never has been, never will be. But you can grow to appreciate what you do have and make a good life with it. I'm happy now, despite being in the middle of mistreatment at work and still dealing with an exwife withholding my daughter from me. I don't depend on other people to give meaning to my life anymore.

Gatesofvalhalla · 2021-10-16T10:24:23+00:00

get a dog. Unconditional love. For everything else: if it flys, floats or fucks - rent it.

ZS_1171 · 2021-10-17T01:44:10+00:00

You're not the only one who feels this way.

ZS_1171 · 2021-10-17T01:45:21+00:00

I can relate

bawbag-t · 2021-10-17T18:18:01+00:00

Find stuff you enjoy and do it often... Say yes to people when they ask if you want to do something... Do nice things for other people... Treat yourself well you deserve it...

Don't get bitter there is no "feminist" conspiracy despite what some parts of the internet would tell you.

Antique_Ingenuity705 · 2021-10-18T14:39:03+00:00

I will say this you're getting results only for yourself. So be happy for yourself then others will be noticing you and man, they will be crazy at you.

Title	How do I get over the fact that no one not even my mother cares about how I feel or my general happiness.
Author	Strange_Okra_7512
Upvotes	50
Comments	19
Date	October 16, 2021 1:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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