I am having trouble finding that article about how having the same person being the main caregiver and the only one cleaning/running the household causes both areas to suffer.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-10-27T17:52:02+00:00

Hi,

I know several articles in relation to this study

Gender disparity in the rate of partner abandonment in patients with serious medical illness

It's a study on his men are 6x more likely to leave sick wives.

They went on to explain that it's because men were not socialized to do caretaking activities.

Here a Catholic herald (sorry but it's quite comprehensive) article

Here Newsweek article

Here excerpt from Newsweek based on the study:

The results are not surprising to people who study the effect of illness on marriage and divorce. "There are heaps of data that women are more likely to take on the role of caregiver than men," says Deborah Carr, a sociologist at Rutgers University. "Women see it as part of the bargain they signed on for. Men don't anticipate this happening, and it changes the marriage for them." Divorce is also more likely after a child develops a severe disease or disability, she says. "

And

Becoming a caregiver can be equally damaging to a man's self-image and sense of self-worth, says Coontz. "There is something asexual and desexualizing about providing this kind of care," says Coontz, who is also director of research and public education for the Council on Contemporary Families. "For men, sexual attraction, on average, is a bigger part of marriage satisfaction—that, and not being criticized too much. It seems to be that illness not only triggers a decrease in a woman's sex drive but probably increases her criticalness. Even when he's providing care, he's not doing it right, so she's triggering things that are important to him."

CoconutJasmineBombe · 2021-10-28T17:50:09+00:00

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky might help.

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a31912468/coronavirus-women-feminism-essay/

https://www.fastcompany.com/90419266/this-game-can-help-you-divide-household-duties-and-emotional-labor-fairly

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