Hi ladies! I tried looking in the handbook for this but the post on Becky vs Dreamgirl has been deleted.

So. My so-far-HV man (32) and I (28) have been dating since Oct 2020, went exclusive after Thanksgiving 2020, and met the parents and “fb official” in January 2021. Things have been great so far — he told me he loved me in May, and we’ve had a really nice summer/fall.

Early on we established we’re dating to marry and start families but he recently mentioned moving in together without talking about marrying me, necessarily. (How red is that flag?)

He talks about marriage and has started asking/talking about “our future,” and about being a father, but hasn’t explicitly come out and said “hey RS I want to marry you.”

Is it possible that the fact that I ended my first marriage less than two years ago could play into this? He told me once that he thought we were moving slowly but he wanted to make sure I felt safe with him before he made any moves, because I did disclose to him that my marriage was a scary one, once we were official. He’s told me to my face before that he’s chiefly concerned about overwhelming me. Is that a typical line of BS? I’ve never heard it before.

I guess this would be simpler for me if I wasn’t happy, if I didnt see him as marriage material, but I do. And I know I keep that to myself.

Any help? Is this the dreaded mask slip? Do I ghost right now?