During the same dinner with the 91 year old from my previous post, I had the pleasure of meeting several new women who are a friends of my gal pal. Aged 33 to 50, they were lovely and we had a great night. I really had fun meeting them.

Now that I've been changed by the FDS lens, in that sense, dinner was bleak. LV relationships and behaviour everywhere. One lady embodies the FDS forever gf. They're together 14 years, married 6 years and have a 3 year old. Instantly I knew what's up. Oh, and of course she makes more money than him, does more housework and pretty much handles all the emotional labor. His own mother has apologized to her about how poorly she raised him, which she now sees. That's the convo boy moms should be focusing on, but I digress.

This lady was smart, pretty and a total catch. I caught a glimpse of him on her Lock Screen and he's a toad. What made my heart break was that she knew in her bone marrow she made a mistake. She said that at 27 all her friends were getting married (this is why surrounding yourself with HV ppl is so crucial) so she grabbed this guy who was good enough and hung on tight. Then it became sunk cost, inertia and she wanted a kid because she "knew she'd regret not having one". I just sighed internally. She's chained to him for life and she's making the best of it by over-functioning. It's so disheartening how common this dynamic is, FDS saves women from this nonsense.