Taking the advice of the post saying to look at your LVM’s cheating a different way, this is where I ended up. Hopefully these characterizations help someone too. It’s a little all over the place-wrote it at about 1 am. I’m talking about and at him.

  1. He’s insecure. Apparently I don’t validate him enough, but does he validate himself? No. He has no people or social skills, so he has no idea how to relate to others. So he looks for validation wherever he can get it.

  2. He’s greedy and selfish. These traits have nothing to do with me. He is undeserving of love. That’s why he’s not getting it from me any longer.

  3. He’s a bad person who gets off on lying and betrayal.

  4. He’s a hypocrite. He talks so much about all the women in his life who make bad decisions when it comes to men, all the while..he is the men. He is the bad man his father is. He is the man he told me he wouldn’t be, which makes him a hypocrite, a failure (if he even tried), and a liar.

  5. He’s a coward who doesn’t make good decisions. He’s a coward if he can’t leave someone he’s unhappy with and cheat instead. It doesn’t matter what I’ve done or haven’t done. He makes bad decisions if he thinks life with her will be better or even good. I know he doesn’t actually want her. That’s what makes him stupid. You’re going to lose your place, your dog, and your security for someone you claim you don’t even take seriously. You’re a dumbass and a poor excuse for a man in any sense: boyfriend, dog dad, son, brother. Instead of standing up for himself, he stays with someone he’s not happy with and just takes it. He’s unhappy, but too lazy, insecure and uncaring about himself to do something about it. He’s done having a meal ticket. He’s too much of a coward to do it and doesn’t love himself enough. He had to hide photos in apps and Google Drives and use texting and second phone number apps. We’re not going anywhere in February. And I’m not moving to Chicago so you can cheat on me in my face and I have nowhere else to go.

  6. He is weak. Instead of investing in himself and his appearance like I am, he seeks external validation with no regard as to how it will affect him and his home life. This makes him equally dumb. He’s weak and keeps weak company. His friend ___ is a passive loser, his friend’s girlfriend is a young and dumb weirdo, ___ is young and fucking stupid. Weak bitches link up. Weak minds think alike. He doesn’t even love himself to improve the company he keeps. I don’t want to be with someone who can’t grow and adjust accordingly.

  7. He is just like the men he complains about his mom being with: unaccomplished, a drain on women’s lives, and can’t make anything happen for himself. The only reason he has as much money as he has is because he’s using my car to get it. He wouldn’t have anything to his name if it weren’t for me. He is so unskilled that he can’t do anything without assistance.

He is not a loss. He is a real piece of shit. He is a man that is a piece of shit. He’s not smart enough to get more than what he’s getting from here. He’s that dumb to only go after scraps of attention and low hanging fruit because he knows deep down thats all he can get. He’s desperate and any smart woman would see it. He’s not intelligent enough to strategize and get more. That’s why he’s fucked all his female friends: can’t get more than what’s around him. That would require someone to get to know him and he knows there’s nothing of substance there. Too low value to aim high and he knows it. He knows he’s undeserving of actual attention and affection. It’s been his entire life up to this point and it always will be.