You know these acts of love we all do for someone we love, only to be brushed aside and told them that it's wrong, or too little, or just used for sex before left to get ourselves off?

How about, instead of catering to someone who treat us in a way we would never treat them, we skip this and go straight to caring for ourselves.

You like home cooked meals? Great, invest in a cooking class or 2, get some tools and start having fun for yourself first and foremost. Use the classes to socialize outside of the norm and learn fun reciand tips.

You like to hear words of encouragement? Grab your friends and go out have fun, share your accomplishments, and every day, write yourself a good thing you did today.

Same goes for everything else you look for someone else to do them to you. Why spend energy to someone who won't do that and make you feel like shit for even daring to have this dream? Life is too small to spend it feeling guilty for loving ourselves.

The ones who say we must be selfless, caring and never expecting anything, can go take a hike. At the end of the day it's just me, myself and I.