Hi, this will be a long post. I will write it in numbered paragraphs so its easier to refer to and ask questions/feedback on particular points. There will also be interruptions that explain what is going on through my head as something is happening in the FR.

TL;DR: First time approaching girls in a club setting, First rejection. Would appreciate feedback.

Background info: Just arrived to Singapore as an exchange student (Im from Europe) and i came here alone. Been reading Red Pill for almost 2 years now, but never actually had the balls to approach anyone. That being said, i did successfully apply red pill teachings in social settings like parties, bars and at work (i'm a waiter so it's fine). I had quite a bit of success, I am able to apply what i learned and get girls. I also have been lifting, gained weight, i look lean and girls notice that i work out. I also fixed my style, i dress a lot nicer. I have a stylish haircut and in general, i'm always confident, look everyone in the eyes and have no problem making friends and flirting with girls.

1) Yesterday i went to this Singapore culture lecture for exchange students and i met some guys. We talked for a bit, I asked if they are doing anything tonight and they said that they are going to a club. I asked if I can join, they said yeah come with us and so it was on.

shit going through my head :

When i went home, i was coming up with excuses on why i shouldn't go to the club. I don't really like going to clubs, because of many reasons, but i thought that if i don't go, then I will just be a pussy. So after much hesitation i still decided to go out, I bought a ticket and went.

2) I texted one of the guys to ask where they are, they didnt really reply so just went to the station to go to the location where we decided to meet up. After 40 minutes i was there, I call them up and they say that they still arent there and will meet me at the club instead. I had waited about 20 minutes for them at that point so i jumped back on to the train to go to the club:

Shit going through my head: I was starting to feel a bit uneasy, because my "friends" were late, i dont know anyone, and hate waiting because i feel like a pussy, waiting on some guys who i dont know to go somewhere where i wouldn't even go alone. Regardless, I don't panic, i go to the club location, (which was amazing, its on water opposite of Marina Bay Sands. it has an amazing panoramic view of the financial district.

3)

I look around, i see other students in groups pre-drinking. After observing for a bit, i see a group of 4 girls sitting by the water and a group of 4 guys drinking on a bench. I immediately think: Okay, i need to walk up to that group of girls, say hi and ask to join them. Then i proceed to spend the next 5 minutes running scenarios in my head on how i will do that, what i will say and what i will do if they say fuck off. This gets me anxious and I pussy out.

I go the nearby Seven Eleven, get a beer, walk to where i saw the guys and the girls and i just sit down next to 2 guys talking and drinking. As soon as i sit down they look at me and i just say: "Hi how are you" . then 10 minutes later we are all talking and laughing, getting to know each other and it seems like a success. Then one of the guys, who is really good looking and what would some people call: Natural alpha. (He isn't a natural alpha, but he is simply used to getting attention from hot chicks and regular chicks and is not phased by them at all.) starts talking about girls. I chime in, the guys seem to acknowledge it and we keep talking about girls for another 10 minutes.

What is going through my head: These guys are all good looking and they party a lot, so they must be somewhat good with girls. I need to somehow use this to my advantage because i don't party a lot and i'm not good at approaching (more like i haven't approached anyone at all to this day) and therefore i can learn from them.

4) I remember this game that i read somewhere on TRP: I offer our group to play it: Group picks a girls and one of the guys whose turn it is has to go and talk to her and either get a number or get a "No". The guys get excited and think its a great game so we discuss the rules for a bit and then get going.

Fast forward 30 minutes, we are past the gate and on the pier outside the club with a great view and we start the game. I go first, they choose a girl for me and she is walking to the club, i am behind her. If i made the effort, i could have caught up to her, but instead i pussy out and lie to myself saying: she was too far away, she went inside i couldn't catch her which is also what i told my new friends, but i still admitted that i lost. However, our group got engaged into a group of girls, so i join the conversation, we are all talking to the girls. after 5 minutes I am solo talking to one of the girls who is above average, definitely very cute, but not HB8 or HB9.

5)

I am looking at her eyes as i speak, im asking questions, every time we finish one topic i immediately follow up with another (Which i think came of as me being nervous talking to her, which i wasn't really nervous, maybe a bit). So we stand there talking when her friend interrupted us and invited her to go dancing.

Before she leaves i say: Hey, can i get your number?

Mistake: Should have said, enjoyed talking to you, give me your number. ( Should have been more direct more confident.)

Her friends laughed a little bit and then she smiled and said something like: I'll see you later anyway.

Then i smiled and said cool. ( Look at what the girl does, not what she says. This was a simple rejection.

I realised it was a rejection but it didn't feel bad at all. I thought it was going well to be honest, but that is not what she thought.

6) Then i found my friends, they were talking to other girls, i again joined to conversation talked for a bit.

Fast forward 5 minutes, our group of guys are together again, looking for new targets. Now its the turn of the two really good looking guys. We choose a group of girls and point at one chick and tell him to go. He doesn't hesitate and goes, walks up to three HB7-8's and starts talking. I'm amazed at this point, in my head im just pusyying out at the thought of walking up to 3 hot chicks and striking up a convo.

He comes back, he didnt get a number it didn't work out, but we just congratulate him on having the balls.

7)

Fast forward 40 minutes and we are in the club, dancing with some girls. Note: I always need some drinks to dance, but i am very conscious of my finances while abroad so i dont buy anything at the club and just dance without being drunk, which is something i never do. It ends up not being bad at all.

My friends are a bit tipsy and relaxed, everyones is dancing even though the music is shit and i noticed that the the really good looking guy in our group just randomly hugs girls dances with them for a bit then rejoins the circle and he does that every couple of songs with no bad effects at all. Then another friend does the same and the girls go with it.

What is going through my head: One thing that i don't get is how to approach girls on the dance floor. Talking is difficult, since its very loud. I don't want to be touchy because if she turns around pushes me and says WTF then I will feel like a fucking rapist, and people will notice that reaction and think that i'm a creep. I don't want that to happen. ~

The whole time in my head im thinking, how do I imitate that handsome dude and dance a bit more intimately with these chicks. However, I end up not having the balls to try anything.

8)

Fast forward to the end of the night around 3am, I see the guys that i was originally coming to the club with, we shake hands, pretend like we are best friends and start dancing in a circle. These two guys are with 2 girls. One of them HB1 and the other is Asian Chinese (I have a thing for Chinese chicks) that chick is not hot, taking in the make up and what she was wearing i would give her HB6-7 (Where HB9 is fucking dick hardening hot and HB8 is a girl that everyone notices walk by) This one was above average with a good body. My two friends go to the toilet and i'm there dancing with the two chicks. The HB1 pushed me into the HB7 (In my head i think: wtf, we're not in highschool anymore) Nowi noticed her IOI's she definitely checked me out. We start talking even tho its very hard. She is asking me lots of questions which just proves she really likes me. So we start dancing i'm not afraid to dance really close to her, grind, touch her, grab her ass, since i know she wont freak out.

Then a weird fucking thing happens: her friend, the HB1 moves away a bit, like 10 steps. And the asian chicks STARTS CALLING HER to find her. I thought, okay, maybe there's an explanation for that, il help her find her, cool. I don't pay too much attention. We find her friend, continue to dance, more ass grabbing, more touching.

Her friend moves 10 steps away again, and she starts walking looking for her.

Now im getting alerted, because what the fuck, what are you scared of. Now while she is looking for her firend, she takes my hand and navigates with me behind. I dont like that because i feel out of control and like some whipped pussy ass bitch. But then i convince myself that its worth investing some time into this since something could happen. So i do follow her around for a bit. We find her friend again at the bar. They get some water, offer some to me, we take a short break and go back to the dance floor.

Fast forward Same fucking thing happens. Now this time i don't follow her, she finds her friend and comes back, but Im starting to look for my friends because this is weird. Eventually the chicks start going somewhere again and then i jsut say fuck it to myself find my friends and we leave for food. , Oh and i did get the asian chicks number somewhere at the very beginning of meeting her.

My questions:

A) Why do you think the first girl didn't give me her number? It seemed like the convo was going well, she seemed interested.

I think its because maybe i was fidgeting a bit, asked too much questions and came off as nervous.

B) I feel like i am confident all the time, but when it comes to approaching a hot chick, the confidence disappears. In a social setting like a party, I can easily talk to hot chicks too, but during the day in neutral setting or a club i find it hard.

C) It seems like I have a lot of self-doubt, before doing something i think about it too much in my head and end up not doing it.

I know that in that case you're supposed to "just do it without thinking too much" but it doesn't work like that for me.

D) How do you approach girls on the dance floor?

E) How do you approach groups of girls to talk to one of them?