TLDR:

  • live in a house with 2 close friends and friends gf
  • friends gf flirts with me
  • don't fuck her but develop oneitis
  • she starts flirting with the other housemate
  • get butthurt and find trp, try to salvage by swallowing the pill
  • house relations are now somewhat passive aggressive, amogy and deteriorating
  • I'm ignoring her and her bf is now ignoring me because of my ignoring her
  • received ultimatum that if the vibe in the house doesn't improve we will have to part ways
  • still angry about the whole thing, leaving would feel like defeat and I suspect without my presence in the house John would get cucked
  • not sure what to do

So as the title says I'm in a bit of a fucked up situ. Currently living in a house with two close friends, Rob and John, and Johns gf, Kath. I have a strong preference for remaining in the house but am open to your guys recommendations.

I'll try keep this brief. John works long hours and Rob is away for weeks at a time, so it's me and Kath at home a lot. John mentioned that he and Kath aren't having sex much. Kath started showing interest in me, giving IOI's, sexual innuendo in conversation, leaving her panties in visible places, a couple times where I might've escalated but didn't, friendzoning myself and developing oneitis.

This was while Rob was away. When Rob gets back from his trip I notice all the behaviours I thought were flirting with me she's now doing with Rob. I realised some possibilities:

  • I missed out by not escalating
  • I'd been manipulated for validation and to become her orbiter
  • I was a backup plan while Rob was away and her relationship with John was on the decline
  • she's just trying to create drama
  • We're both orbiters
  • She wanted us both

Curious to hear your guys interpretations. This is what led me to the red pill.

So as soon as I noticed this I began to ignore her completely. However, because Rob would only be back for a week before leaving, in his several weeks of absence I'd often relapse and begin talking to her again, though never to the extent that it once was. But every time he's back I see them flirting with each other and it feels like I'm being disrespected (especially when she puts her panties in his laundry, petty I know) so I get angry and ignore her again to where now we don't interact and he gets treated like the golden boy. I also started amoging John a bit to try get him to man up and keep his bitch in line.

Though I've tried to conceal my emotions this hasn't gone unnoticed and is apparently affecting the vibe in the house. I received a text the other day from John stating that although they love me being in the house it feels really negative at the moment, everyone in the house needs to feel welcome otherwise we will have to part ways. Ie, I have to be cool with Kath and him or I'm out. Think this might've been a shit test to try get me to revert back to my pre trp nice guy ways and start orbiting again.

This situ has mostly been bearable because Rob is away for weeks at a time. However, due to his changing jobs in the coming months he'll now be home permanently. Having to see them interact everyday will annoy me but leaving feels like admitting defeat and once I'm gone I'm sure it'll only be a matter of time before John gets cucked.

So, any advice on how to proceed would be much appreciated.