This article spoke to me many years ago after long-streched phases of sexual exploration. I am now 37yo, the age that the authors mentions as the time when his shift came. It speaks to me more than ever. Also the part about the maturity level of a woman required to be truly nurturing and not see a man as a helpless needy boy.

I for my part am still in the process of communicating needs that can be shameful at times. Especially being held by a woman. My experience is, that the more I own my needs and am okay with them my counterpart accepts them as well. That's when I don't burden them with giving me permission for my needs, which would create a diagonal shift between us.

Here is the link, interested in feedback:

https://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/the-one-thing-men-want-more-than-sex-wcz/