Is it a good idea to ask: What are you looking for? When is the right time to ask this?

winefox · 2021-09-30T19:00:41+00:00

She doesn’t know what she wants. She’s just there for the ride. It’s up to you to show her what she wants, and that should be you.

Meloxian · 2021-10-01T10:36:51+00:00

On the 11th date, 7 minutes and 32 seconds in, when you’ve got a meatball sub in one hand and a copy of back to the future in another

flexman2000 · 2021-09-30T19:01:51+00:00

on dating apps, I ask girls almost every time what they are looking for BEFORE meeting up... but if you've already met her or gone on a date with her DON'T ask her what she's looking for, assume she's attracted and escalate as you normally would with a girl you're seeing.

the relationship is a woman's job, not yours. you just continue to be high value, do fun shit with her, escalate phisically and be good in the bedroom, if she really likes you she will ask you "so where is this going?", then you can make a decision from a position of power..if you just wanna keep her as a plate you can tell her you aren't looking for anything serious right now, but enjoy what you two have going on rn... or if you wanna relationship with her you can lay out what you expect out of a girlfriend (ie: no single girl behaviours), and then leave it up to her if she accepts your boundaries for being a girlfriend.

asking a girl what she's looking for is pretty bluepill/beta. think, would Chad be asking a girl what's she's looking for after already being on a couple dates with her? no! he's spinning plates, bettering himself every day, and if a girl happens to ask what he's looking for he say "don't really have an agenda right now, but I do enjoy spending time with you"... eventually the girl might push for a relationship and Chad can decide then if the girl is someone he actually likes enough to drop his other plates for

oh and also if a girl never asks you where things are going, or the "so what are we?" question then it's a win win for you, you get all the bedroom benefits, without having to commit or provide for her

Title	Is it a good idea to ask: What are you looking for? When is the right time to ask this?
Author	flexman2000
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	September 30, 2021 6:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/newTRP
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