So I recently moved jobs and started working at a start up, it has been 7 months now, I am the events manager and organize events for all the departments in the organization, amd work with different teams for their events. I have made a lot of friends and have made a place for myself in the org for being friendly and approachable.

So, 1 very senior person from the organization started texting me and we casually started chatting on and off regarding work, fitness, workouts, funny drunk stories etc etc and 2 months later ( in december) he asked me out to dinner and drinks and I thought why not and went out with him, there we got talking and had way too many drinks and were dancing and suddenly we were kissing and before we realized wat we were doing we booked the hotel room across the street and we hookedup, well we didnt go all the way but we went till 3rd base since i was on my period.

We talked and showered and again did stuff in the morning and then in the morning he tells me he is not emotionally available as he is stuck up on a gal he is seeing who moved to another city. He is not committed to her and neither is he willing to stop seeing her. Bcoz he has feelings for her but she is apparently leaving the country soon so it is pretty much a dead end. Then he told me it was nice wat we shared and he seemed a bit lost and he left after 1o mins i also left. Then we didnt talk much, we would see each other at work.

He pinged me and checked-in on me wen i was unwell 2 weeks ago and kept checking in with me about my health till i recovered and also kept asking me about my fitness and workout routines etc etc. We texted a bit. Then i asked him why he was closed off. He said he had a lotta shit to deal with and was really unsure wat to do in life. I asked if he wanted to talk. He said some other time..so i said okay.

2 days ago, it was his work milestone and i organized a whole surprise virtual event for him and he loved all the things that were arranged and thanked me. And during the event i realized he has flown to another city to see the girl he is stuck up on, and i felt really bad. Tho i did not say anything. I just feel bad. I dnt know why.

I know i shouldnt have slept with the guy on the first date. But we were frnds for like 5-6 mnths it wasnt a 1st date officially It was a drunken escapede wat we did and i did not harbor feelings for him wen we hookedup. But now i feel bad / envious bcoz he does not want to date me.

Maybe some of y'all will say i am a dumb bitch, but guys i just had a mindless fling and did not know i would catch feelings. He is a genuinely nice guy, sweet, helpful, and caring. And now I dnt want to spoil our work relationship or you know be hurt that he does not have feelings for me. It is his choice and i respect his choice and emotions. It is okay if he does not reciprocate wat i feel

What should i do to get over him, i just dnt want to feel hurt knowing he is dating other people

Please share some suggestions, pls dnt share mean abuses