Hi ladies, I’m (F37) having doubts in my LTR relationship with my bf (M38) and I’m having a hard time distinguishing if it’s my anxiety and need to control things on my timeline or if there’s something really there.

We’ve been dating for exactly one year today. We went on a trip last week and I had this feeling that he might propose on the trip, and am a little disappointed that he didn’t. We still had a really fun time, got along great, no arguing, just all around good times in a beautiful city.

We live about 2 hours away from each other and I’m kind of over the distance. I also have 2 daughters, a job, a house, and a second building I own where I live. He knows I would be happy to move out to the country with him and he also knows I would never give up all the stability I have without a marriage. We talk about the future often. He asks questions like where I’d want to get married, how much id work in the future, about my kids going to school where he lives, where we’d buy a cabin in the woods together etc.

I have this nagging feeling that somethings holding him back. One thing that confuses me is he says he would like to have a kid of his own if possible, and I just know that window of opportunity is closing. We’re at a point where the logistics of getting married and moving would probably take at least a year, figure on trying to have a baby for a little bit and then suddenly I’m 39 - maybe I’ll be able to get pregnant, maybe not.

I can’t discern if I just need to wait it out a bit longer. Or what to do next? I don’t want to set a deadline for fear that he’s already planning on proposing and it’d be kind of like ruining the romance or surprise. I have noticed he moves at a slightly slower pace than me, like when I was ready to tell him i loved him and starting to get anxious about why he hadn’t told me yet, I waited it out a few weeks and he said it to me first. His temperament in general is more laid back and slow paced whereas I like to get things done efficiently and quickly.

But I am also feeling like maybe there’s something about me or that I’m doing that’s making him hesitate. Like I’m not inspiring commitment from him - like it’s close but not quite. Should I ask him if somethings stopping him? Should I keep playing it cool for a bit longer? If I don’t want to wait past spring for a proposal should i tell him that now? What do you all think?