I am very confident with man, it's hard to apply this "alpha" "beta" language, but think I have a good social standing, sure I don't search physical conflicts with strangers.

I even have through learning about TRP and other evolutionary psychology information gathering a pretty good idea and in good moments I feel like I could ask out women and even if they reject me A I wolud believe there is a high chance that it does not happen, but even if it happens I would not only not care but even enjoy a potential harsh rejection because I think it would say more about her and her insecurities that I trigered by daring to talk to her.

Yet in normal day time on the street or some interactions I have zero self confidence. That said I have not much interactions and in professional interactions women don't show a weaker side and are the opposite of inviting, but because I am overweight, I don't feel good enough, to be bold, even logically that would always be the right move even if it fails.

Does anybody else have that that they feel like a leader under man (cool and intelligent) but totally have no self confidence with women?

Do you have to make yourself a total fool, and be super insecure like 50 times before you are over it.

I mean I get not really good social ideal opportunities barely see all 100 years a women I would have some interest and then with covid I am not allowed to enter anything but supermarkets etc... and yes women put a agressive very self conifdent sometimes even suppored by fakeup face out there, and I feel more confident at evening (even without alkohol) I am a night owl, but you would assume that if you are kind of a leader between man, you would not be totally incapable with women.

Maybe I expect to much, from totally shy to cold aproach women on the street is a hard switch, but still it comes from a imense mental work to keep me understanding that women don't judge me ONLY for my looks, like I do 99% to them. Anybody with similar problems?