Don't do all the planning and organizing! Even when he pretends you are just better at it, in reality he is taking advantage of you.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-02-17T22:59:58+00:00

I hated when I would plan a vacation or whatever and they would act like they were not having a good time. Like go plan something for yourself then! They put zero effort into anything and then get mad when It’s not perfect.

That’s why I enjoy traveling solo. Went to Thailand for four weeks recently and did whatever I wanted and it was amazing.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-02-17T20:00:22+00:00

What a smug scrote. I handled everything in my last relationship and it was never valued or appreciated. They just expect it. And you can't even enjoy the trip because it activates some deep seated people pleasing programming that we as women must make sure everyone is happy at all times.

I planned an entire international trip with zero input from my ex because he was "good with whatever" only for him to mope three steps behind me the entire time because I gave on trying to get opinions from him and I'm not a mind reader so I did what I wanted to do. Life is way easier without that smug dead weight grumbling like a hangry toddler.

GreytracksuitPants · 2022-02-18T00:07:07+00:00

I bailed on a trip once. I realised he wanted me to do all the organising, emotional labour and driving and I thought “ok then you can at least pay for it” but that seemed like a battle for him too so I noped myself out of there and left him to get the train back himself. Probably struggled organising that too.

There were far more disasters on the trip but those stories are for another day!

radfem_babe · 2022-02-18T00:57:00+00:00

Only plan trips and vacations for yourself. Don't tolerate laziness from men.

Far_from_deceived · 2022-02-17T19:52:12+00:00

True!!!! Especially when traveling . Men who let the woman plan everything, hotels, flight, trips etc etc are just LAZY. They will even say “It is up to you” with that false view of “I’m letting you decide” when they actually don’t really care.

Khione541 · 2022-02-18T20:03:29+00:00

I had an ex like this. It drove me absolutely crazy that he could not plan a vacation, ever. He's currently dating a travel blog writer and she's always saying how she loves planning trips so it's cool that he gets to tag along... I'm like... how are you not building resentment and super turned off? I can't stand men who lack initiative. It's suuuch a turnoff.

Title	Don't do all the planning and organizing! Even when he pretends you are just better at it, in reality he is taking advantage of you.
Author	Ok_Passenger_5717
Upvotes	311
Comments	13
Date	February 17, 2022 7:35 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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