First, details on us. I'm 19, she's 18. She's an HB8. I'd say I'm about equal with her as far as physical attractiveness goes, but my friends tell me I can do a little better. Regardless, she invites me to her little party at her house. I go, she's drunk, & she eventually tries to get me in her bed. I decline, say she's drunk, (I'm not about to go to jail over a rape accusation) and before long I leave.

Next morning, I get a text around 8:30. It's her, wanting me to come over so I can unlock her parents bedroom door. (Its got a keyhole, but you can do some credit card trick to unlock it) Well I got the sense there was something more so I eventually oblige.

I go, we flirt, we conversate, and I kiss her in all the right places. By noon I tell her I'm headed out, but she suggests we get together later. I tell her I'm busy that day but I can clear up the evening.

We ended up grabbing a bite at a cheap local diner, we drive around, bring her back to my place, we fuck for about an hour.

Well she had previously mentioned that she had to leave at 10:30 so, being the helpful man I was, I decided I should tell her it was 10:45 while we were taking a break-- me still inside her. (I'm big on details, but I figure anything to help you guys figure out the situation)

Well she agrees that yeah she should probably go, so I rush her out my door barely putting my own pants on, and drive her back to her car at the diner with no shoes. We get there, and she promtly hops out of my car, into hers. I say to drive safe before she closes the door, she says yeah.

Now, I was getting the vibe that she was being short, and that maybe something was wrong. Even on the car ride back, I would intertwine my fingers with hers, and then our hands would claspe-- but then she'd undo her fingers. I'd put my hand on her thigh, and she seemed unreceptive to it. Whatever, details. So later that night, and I'm positive she'd gone to sleep by this point, I send her: "hey, are you okay?" Like I said, something seemed off. In hindsight this was a bad idea. I don't think I should have cared. She never text me back. Two days later I call her, she sends it to voicemail. Here's where I fuck up. Third day, around 4:00, I send her this: "You're not as forward as I thought, so I'm going to attempt to get it out of you: [name] what the fuck did I do wrong"

I mentioned being forward because I had mentioned to her previously that I really liked how forward/ blunt she was. Well guess what, I fucked up once again. I sent her another text. This was later that third night. It said: "Just in case we're not on the same page; I'm real damn about you, girl. Let's get coffee tomorrow evening. If you're not feelin' me back, reject me. Ignoring just leaves me with questions" Well she finally got back to me. Near instantly, with: "Just don't text me "It's rejection

And honestly I'm just clueless. What could I have better done? The sex was fantastic, you understand. She 'gasmed twice before I even got done with my tongue. The intercourse was even better. There was not one thing I did wrong on the night of sex, I was very on top of my game. But because I haven't completely swallowed the pill I'm still about this girl, and if I can salvage my fuck ups, I'd like to get in that pussy again.

A few other minor details, for better diagnosis.

  • My good raft guiding buddy has been dating her sister for 4 years. They're getting married, we just don't know when. Hopefully that doesn't turn out terribly for him. Anyways, he says that she's currently "really sad, and working through some things." Now.. I don't know what to think of that, or if it'd even effect me. Next.

  • she dated my step brother for a full year, they broke up 6-7 months ago, he's now off to university 10 hours away. So I've known her for a fat minute. saw her every week at family lunches, saw her at my house, etc. I have no idea if she has any feelings towards him still, but I'm the bigger, better looking, smarter, more humble guy. (At least, on the outside) and I know that around 2 months ago, she told me she hates him, how much of an asshole he is, etc etc. Not once did I ever agree with her. I just said yeah, I'm an asshole too. I just amplified usually.

-She is a sub in bed. She loves that I control her. Well. It kinda seems like the exact OPPOSITE of what I did the days following. I get a grade A on the night of, but fuck I failed the following test! Check this out. What if she wasn't in to me because I didn't ignore her after/ disrespect her/ etc? I craved her attention. Women are weird as fuck man, I really don't know what I did wrong.

Gents of the fabulous RP, I will take your stinging advice. Lay it out on me. Criticize. But most importantly: I like this girl. If I can salvage this situation, you bet your pretty ass I will.