Lets start with backstory before I get into it..

So, my LTR has this childhood guy friend. Was her BF all through middle school, guess they stopped dating around when she was in 8th grade cause I know she dated the same guy through HS.

Read her teen diary recently after we had just moved in together and the best info I could pull from it was her around 18 talking about how she would crash at his apartment from time to time. Last entry in it was from when she broke up with her HS BF and went over their and they cuddled but he didnt make a move. But it did say something along the lines of "I remember every part of that night, every moment, how I cried afterwards and recieved the unwanted "Love bites"." Not 100% sure this is referring to sex since she has told me she lost her viginity to some big redneck as she put it and was 20. In all honesty, and I cant be for sure and havent asked cause I dont like to ask my GF's who or how many they slept with, I dont know if she did ever sleep with him. I also read an entry from around this time on how people take advatage of her when she is nice..and specifically said "Like Bill"

I do know her past LTR from 5 years ago despised him. But I also know her past LTR was insanely controlling to the point she had no friends and barely could leave the house.

I've also, read via her diary on how he helped her get over wanna to kill herself (she was a teen) and via social media via "on this day" how 5 years ago during her breakup with her LTR she would crash at his place. Basically hes always been her shoulder to cry on during relationship or mental hard times.

But, hes a scumbag. Couple kids..drug dealer and user..a new knocked up baby momma or listing a new GF on his FB profile who is clearly a junkie. Doesnt have a place to live or a steady car most times. Plus hes not a good looking dude at all. Hes the prototypical Affliction shirt wearing guy with bedazzled jeans and Oakleys.

I have yet to meet him also. My knowledge of him and him popping up has consisted of my GF telling me a new story about his uber-trash life for us to get a laugh. Aside from that I know.. 1. He will text my GF about once every 2 months asking her if she can give him a ride or pick him up. She tells me and respond back blowing him off. 2. He asked to crash at her place before we lived together and she said no. She said she had a BF now (me) and it wouldnt be cool. 3. She met up with him for a drink once while weve been together. I wasnt happy about it but I kept frame and didnt really care. Do I know what happened after? No. She text me when she got home at midnight and we talked but...who knows.

So...here we are recently and the situation that has transpired that has me wondering what to do, think..

Recently me and her have started to live together and she said "Bill asked to crash here for a few days" to which I responded saying just a "Oh yeah?" She didnt say she responded to him but instead said "Ill tell him it would be wierd to you seeing some guy sleeping on our couch" I kept frame I think and just said "Dont put this on me. I dont want this guy thinking I'm dictating your choices." She just laughed it off. I did ask tho "Didnt he just get married"...cause he did, to a skeleton looking junkie chick he knew about a month. She said "Yeah, but they are fighting already"...as I said, this guy is common trash. Supposedly also my GF talked to his "new wife" earlier this week cause nobody has heard or seen the guy since the day he asked to crash at our place.

Now...I dont like this...I kept frame I think, but her asking me even..rubbed me the wrong way. And I've really given no fucks about this guy to be honest. He seems low class and beneath me. But maybe his give no fucks, deal drugs, bang SMV 3 girls, drive beat up hondas and wear beddazeled clothing is alpha or something? Really, reading the journal entries from 10+ years ago about her at his apartment made me wonder and turned her asking me into a feeling of "disrespect" Also, I dont know if they slept together in the past (hell I dont know if recent) but even if they didnt I bet thiers more then a 50-50 chance she has at least blown or gave this guy a handy at some point. And I dont know how I feel about the associating with past lovers. I know people who feel it makes zero difference but then I had a GF once years ago who forbid me to talk to any girl I had intimate time with, she said "Once you have ANY sexual contact with a person it leaves the door open for future sexual contact and makes it much easier to engage in cause youve engaged it in it before so its comfortable and doesnt feel like "cheating" or adding a notch/N count"

I've done what I've read to be "alpha" and not mate guarded, not acted a fool. Ive gone as far as, take for instance when we were moving, accepting her asking if I wanted him to come help/do something for me. Basically the idea that if your GF has orbiters use them to your advantage. But, in true common trash form this guy has never showed up at scheduled times, so like I said, still havent met him.

Now I know, everyones gonna jump to "Next" her, or shes fucking him or something along those lines..and perhaps your all right. But, I'm looking for some weighing in on how to handle this situation and stay in frame. We live together and I do love her..but this is started to rub me the wrong way. While it didnt anger me when she asked if he could crash here the other day I let it sit and now find it mildly disrespectful. I feel tho my best course of action is to maintain a "I'm not gonna tell you what to do or not do, but I will base my decisions and actions on what I do based of of what your decisions and action."

So, some insight and opinions would be nice. Of course with as little usual AskTRP negativity as possible.