Can you be attracted to any type of women?

Archibaldo87 · 2016-09-01T18:53:45+00:00

You're overthinking this. It's an interesting question, but one that doesn't have a lot of application to most men's lives, is mostly theoretical, and even if you could answer it the answers wouldn't help most men much.

A man can be attracted to a wide range of women. There are some women he just won't be attracted to no matter what he does or thinks or how thirsty he is. That's just how that is.

I for example tend to swing toward big titted, thick brunettes. But some black women are attractive. Some blue eyed blondes are too.

If you are sexually attracted to a woman, then you are.

If you aren't sexually attracted to a woman, then you aren't.

Apexk9 · 2016-09-01T19:10:40+00:00

I've been attracted to every side of the spectrum.

bornredd · 2016-09-01T19:52:34+00:00

You can't negotiate desire, so if you don't find a girl attractive you just won't.

However, as the old adage goes, they're all pink on the inside. Sex is sex, and the individual matters far more than the race. I've dated black girls, and had a great time. I don't prefer them, and I don't find many of them VERY attractive, but the ones that are make me weak in the knees.

SoRedSuchAlpha · 2016-09-01T20:04:59+00:00

Do you think each man is sexually attracted to only a certain kind of women [emphasis mine]

No. Most men do have a "type" -- a relatively narrow range of traits, of which he's attracted to many/most women who have them. They also can and do fall for women outside their type all the time.

I ask because there are certain women that at first sight I don't find too sexually attractive, for example Indian women, mexican women, black women, or women that are a little too thick even though they are not fat. . . . Would I be able to acquire a sexual taste for the rest of them?

Is your social group (friends, colleagues, classmates) white or mixed race? Do you socialize with women you're not attracted to, or only interact with women you want to pick up? People, in general, like to look at familiar things and things they're used to seeing. When asked to rate the high school yearbook photos, boys considered the girls of their high school to be more attractive than girls of other high school. We know people who believe someone to be intelligent, trustworthy, or otherwise virtuous will rate their as more physically attractive, and that people think people they know are smarter and more virtuous than strangers. Most people have an instinctive aversion to people from races they're not used to interacting with. If you add to that a habit of scanning the area for thin white girls, the result is that you're not going to really look at a black girl long enough to notice whatever attractive features she might have.

We spend a lot of time looking at our friends, and so we eventually become aware of all their attractive feature or mannerisms. If they're actual friends and not just acquaintances, we also form a positive opinion of their character, which in turn leads us to see them as desirable. Seeing someone as desirable is not the same as desiring them. This is why a woman will swear up and down that her male friend is a great catch while admitting that she personally would never date him.

However, even if you're not attracted to your black friend, if you see her as someone who is attractive, you're now primed to see other black women as attractive. At some point you might meet a black women who kind of reminds you of your black friend, but different, and maybe thinner or otherwise closer to your normal type, and find that you want to have sex with her. If you pursue her, you'll train yourself to see black women as viable prospects, and if you keep doing it you'll eventually find that yourself instinctively scanning for thin black or white women when you walk into a room. The same process goes for Indians, Mexicans, and curvy or chubby girls. It's not a 100% sure thing. Men often have one or more "anti-types" that will never do it for them no matter much they're exposed to them. Usually, it does work.

[deleted] · 2016-09-01T20:46:22+00:00

I'm 19, playing competitive sports, eating and living healthy, testosterone flowing, would tap 80/20 of what I see on daily basis, age group 16-45, any race, but it probably gonna change as I'll get older and my test levels lower :|

Maybe even 90/10, because of active lifestyle and my job, I'm surrounded by fit, attractive people

ecosci · 2016-09-01T23:56:52+00:00

Yes, dont let society tell you who to be attracted to because its about a certain image and diversion but if you feel that energy and she a bigger or taller girl you have to be intuned with it thats what being a natural man is all about because attraction doesnt care about how many movies you starred in are how many mag covers you been on.

RedPharaohRising · 2016-09-02T00:12:35+00:00

This is a good question, and I have an analogy for this I've been tinkering with.
You probably have found through life that some things came easier to you than others, maybe you were a great speaker but shit at math, good at running but shit at jumping, etc.
I think you're genetically predisposed to like some kinds of women better than others, or some traits more than others (I like fair skin, dark hair, thin, nice legs, and a shy smile) but there are exceptions to every rule, kind of like being good at (referring above) math in ONE situation but almost never under normal conditions.
But I'm sure you can get a pavlovian response by conditioning yourself - wanna be attracted to black chicks? Jerk off to black chick porn for 3 months, see if they don't get a reaction from your after that - your brain will have associated pleasure with their mannerisms.

from_the_ashes_me · 2016-09-02T03:45:37+00:00

I don't think so. I think some men have certain preferences and fetishes.

I'm more equal opportunity. I'm currently dating a blue-eyed blonde, 5'8". The girl before her was a black haired, brown-eyed half Fillipina girl at all of 5'1. My ex wife was a tall, green-eyed red head.

I do have my preferences, asians, latinas, petite girls... but I seriously don't have a single type. It's like a buffet, might as well sample the dishes.

trpthroway123 · 2016-09-02T15:08:21+00:00

With the varied women that catch my eye, I can't find any rhyme or reason.

Tall, short, light, dark, skinny, thick, ass, titties, legs, hips, lips, whatever.

If you ask me, my preference is 5'6"-5'9" skinny 20-something blondes with a thigh gap. Won't stop me from flirting with that latina with a round ass.

Title	Can you be attracted to any type of women?
Author	Archibaldo87
Upvotes	1
Comments	20
Date	September 1, 2016 6:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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