how can I be of help as a trans woman?

AndyBrown65 · 2022-05-08T04:32:48+00:00

I think you nailed it on the head with IPV.

Society laughs at men when their wives hit them but loses their mind if it was the other way around. Women taunt men a lot and think they can be violent to men without comeback, then play the victim when they are on the end of it.

Keep on telling people IPV is two way

The_Demon_G_84 · 2022-05-08T03:54:19+00:00

I would think you could do much of what you’re already doing.

Sirhugh66 · 2022-05-08T05:25:46+00:00

Speak your truth calmly and clearly.

Halafax · 2022-05-08T03:32:01+00:00

The sidebar covers MRA issues very well. Start there.

PQKN051502 · 2022-05-08T08:04:41+00:00

Thank you. I am glad to see members of GLBTQ+ here. I am a gay guy myself.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-05-08T10:11:37+00:00

I'm answering your specific questions at the end of the this post, feel free to scroll down.

I hope it's ok to post this here, I read the rules and it seems to be ok.

This sub has a very 'hands off' moderation policy to allow for the broadest possible number of voices to be present. This of course comes at the price of the discussions being at times more rough and crude. Participant discretion is advised.

What I do know is that men don't get treated very well and that it's taboo to even mention that. I'm also a social worker and I've spent time focusing specifically on men's experiences of intimate partner violence to try and be someone who can help with that or speak up on it. I also call other women out when they generalize against men.

Thank you for that. Genuinely appreciated. I remember reading about how most trans women 'go along with misandry' in female spaces because they fear that if they don't 'their woman card gets revoked' which makes you standing up for these issues even more praise worthy.

Here are a couple resources that could be of help in that context:

most valuable resource on that topic https://domesticviolenceresearch.org/ (also presentiation by the leading researcher

you cant reduce domestic abuse by telling people that life is a power struggle between men and women

Male Victims of Coercive Control study

abuse of male inmates by female prison guards esp in juvenile detention

Male rape victim describes stereotypes against male victims

But what else can I do? What are your priorities right now?

There is not really a 'we' that could have priorities. Two issues that see some progress currently are:

father involvement

post divorce as well as in 'out of wedlock' situations as well as making sure that kids get male role models if the father is not fit or able to be there (eg incarsation).

Warren Farrell's book 'the boy crisis' is very informative and inspiring on this issue.

some choice quotes from the book

dedicated website: https://boycrisis.org/

Warren's page for it: https://warrenfarrell.com/product/the-boy-crisis/

This book was instrumental in this legislative procedure

proper mental health

Programs and stuff following the newly developed paradigms by John Barry (et al)

a paradigm shift in the field of mens mental health

see also the related article about the American Psychological Association's 'Section for men and boys' changing it's mission statement

Here are some academic textbooks delineating this new approach:

Perspectives in Male Psychology: An Introduction

Men’s Issues and Men’s Mental Health

The Palgrave Handbook of Male Psychology and Mental Health

Hope that was the kind of stuff that you were looking for. If not, please let me know.

Thank you for being open about and active for men's issues! Again, much appreciated.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-05-08T10:43:23+00:00

one other thing that I totally forgot in my other post:

As a trans person you can perfectly bring up the 'post transition' experiences of both trans men and trans women which I found to be most insightful with respect to blind spots in our gender debate.

I genuinely think that trans people have a unique perspective since they have lived experience on 'both sides' (non-binary yada yada yada) of the spectrum.

NoBrick444 · 2022-05-08T08:02:31+00:00

I have no idea but welcome and thanks for the solidarity.

Jbr74 · 2022-05-09T14:56:26+00:00

Ahh.... the old "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em" j/k

mykoiy · 2022-05-08T10:27:04+00:00

Thanks for supporting us! ☺☺

CatherineX94 · 2022-05-08T14:30:33+00:00

Support, since you have experience of being a woman before

DavidByron2 · 2022-05-08T23:17:32+00:00

I want to know what I can do as a woman to help you in your fight for rights

Same as anyone. No more, no less.

I also call other women out when they generalize against men

That's actually very good. People need to be educated. Men's rights are centuries behind other groups. People just don't see men as fully human. It often just never occurs to anyone that men ought to have civil rights like "real" people. It never occurs to them that you can even be sexist against men.

donnasunderland123 · 2022-05-13T04:55:28+00:00

Share data. That is all

Title	how can I be of help as a trans woman?
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Date	May 7, 2022 3:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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father involvement

proper mental health