I fantasize about guys but I have no real attraction towards them IRL

SweelFor- · 2022-06-02T21:35:25+00:00

It is normal behaviour to experience sexual attraction yes. I don't know what stemming from something deeper means or why it would be important to know this

partyorca · 2022-06-03T15:40:34+00:00

This is totally normal, and part of normal fantasizing. Reacting to sexual material doesn’t really mean much of anything when it comes to your sexuality.

While his research has been superseded by modern work, I highly recommend reading up on Alfred Kinsey and how he started exploring the relationship between hetero- and homosexuality. It’s an interesting historical basis for learning more.

tpobs · 2022-06-03T08:06:19+00:00

I see nothing wrong here. Fantasies are fantasies, as long as you are not into some criminal shits that harming others. Enjoy your fantasy, just remember it is just fantasy. It is called fantasy becuase it is not real.

Maybe you are attracted to guys. Maybe you don't. Doesn't matter - you be you.

asshole67throw · 2022-06-02T22:24:22+00:00

Maybe cut back on the porn?

I mean it depends on you. If you are happy with being potentially bisexual than whatever, you do you.

But this is where I’m about to say something controversial:

If you are finding that these are intrusive thoughts or that you are not actually that way inclined when you are “sober” and not aroused - then I would suggest you stop indulging in these fantasies that are causing you shame.

Again I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being bi if you want to. But if you don’t want to, you’re kind of ruining your own mental health and using it as some sort of self harm or acting out an unprocessed trauma to try and resolve it.

PleasantSelection319 · 2022-06-03T16:05:37+00:00

Maybe when you were watching the rp videos it made you romanticize alpha men? never wish to be someone you aren't. It could be stemming from insecurity. You can try to stop fantasizing, and working on ways to improver yourself, it may help to build self confidence.

LearningInternet · 2022-06-03T16:47:17+00:00

I'm like you.

i can't say I fantasize about men but I wish I was gay. At night, I've not been having romantic dreams about women for years now, today I have dreams about dating men because having a woman attracted to me sounds so unrealistic even to my subconscious. It's just so hard to meet women's harsh standards, I'm trying to exit the red pill but it's a fact that if I were gay (or had an attractive face as a hetero male) I wouldn't be involuntary celibate, I wouldn't even know what the red pill is since I wouldn't have my dating insecurities in the first place. I'd have a boyfriend and also plenty of sexual experience with other guys. I really wish I was into men.

Title	I fantasize about guys but I have no real attraction towards them IRL
Author	Both-Custard-9869
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	June 2, 2022 9:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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