i don't want to go outside anymore since gaining weight.

Damsa_draws_stuff · 2022-06-02T07:45:36+00:00

One thing that helped me with that exact problem is this: How many people do you see outside whenever you walk up and down the street? Now how many of those people stay in your mind for more then 10 seconds after you pass them? People don't usually care about any random person walking around, we just overly obsess about that. The healthiest thing would be to accept yourself as you are and try to change what you feel is not right, but keeping in mind that people really don't care about everyone as they do about themselves is a good first step.

mule_roany_mare · 2022-06-02T10:06:33+00:00

You might have to figure out more why you are so ashamed or embarrassed or what. The obvious thing to do is talk to shrink, in person or online, or get some xanax.

What do you think when you see another fat person, or an ugly person, or a person who you think shouldn't feel good about themselves? Are you scared of being judged as harshly as you judge others? Practice forgiving them for being human, practice showing them respect & kindness, then do the same thing for yourself.

Do the things that you respect and value in other people, then when you feel like shit for how you look work through the list of all the reasons you are a good person with value.

Looks are the cheapest source of self esteem.

keker0t · 2022-06-02T07:35:45+00:00

Start working out at home and start eating healthy these are first steps you should take, if your start doing this you can pat yourself on the back and feel assured that your current state is just temporary and soon you will be better, this will give you a little confidence push needed to go outside, instead of not doing anything atleast you are doing something.Atleast that's how I deal with such things.

Arguesovereverythin · 2022-06-02T11:52:42+00:00

Translation: You care so much about what strangers think that you persist in a lifestyle that doesn't make you happy, ignore the opinions of the people closest to you, and ultimately harm your health through the eventual diseases that accompany obesity ( high cholesterol, diabetes, high blood pressure).

Go outside. Don't care about the people that don't care for you. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Also - I'm not a health expert - but I read that 80% of your physical health comes from controlling your diet. Have you thought about seeing a dietician? In my area, if you pay out of pocket, they will work with you. Even meeting for only 15 minutes to make it affordable. Lesson being that even a small step is progress in the right direction 😁

Prize_Puzzleheaded · 2022-06-02T14:13:01+00:00

Bro you are already half there you know what you're doing and how to fix it and u already did it before u just gotta do it again have some confidence in yourself you're doing great you are already on the right path just keep going u probably going to fail sometimes and gain back weight but as long as you keep trying it doesn't matter be confidence a lot of people don't have the confidence or will to even try

surrealstrength · 2022-06-02T21:31:05+00:00

We suffer more in our imaginations than in reality. People are too self indulgent to care about how a stranger looks. We don't even remember the faces we see throughout the day.

I suggest you get back to your journey and do something you enjoy. You've already accomplished it once. You can do it again. And as for your romantic relationship. It's amazing you have a person who loves you beyond the physical aspect. But it never hurts to be a better version of yourself. Good luck buddy!

Title	i don't want to go outside anymore since gaining weight.
Author	GarryBunk
Upvotes	20
Comments	6
Date	June 2, 2022 6:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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