Should I approach when I know I will get rejected?

lanky32 · 2016-09-27T07:38:24+00:00

Every man gets rejected most of the time, unless of-course the man is a celebrity or a 9.5 on 10 in looks. But people with a face which is 6.5 on 10 get laid too.

How? They approach.

A man who is a 6 to 7 on the looks scale is unlikely to be approached first but he would get laid if he approaches women. Would all women accept him?

No.

But, if he approaches enough women with a semi decent game, would one or a few them sleep with him?

Absolutely, yes.

So, go out and approach. And remember 90% of men get rejected most of the times. But they still get women.

There is only one way you would get women. Not approaching is not an option if you want to get women.

So go out and approach. And tell us how you feel after you have done that.

MattyAnon · 2016-09-27T11:04:55+00:00

re staring: learn to stare women down. it's hard because you see them as better than you. see them as slightly-below you and it's easier.

Say my league is 6/10. Does it make sense to approach 8s?

Your league is not 6/10, you are not even on the league table. Avoid 8's, jeez.

Don't think of women as partners or LTR until you've fucked them. That means you are free to experience more women who are at least attractive to you, but you're not going to go from 0 to 8's, jeez.

I am not very overweight but I still have man boobs

hit the fucking gym already.

I try to stare at every nice ass I'm aware of.

Try not to objectify women as a way to hide from the reality that you're dealing with another person. See her as a real genuine human being. With nice tits that wants to be fucked. Do not objectify her to hide from reality. See her as a real genuine human being who desparately wants your dick in her.

should I still approach women with the intention of getting her number? Should I try to flirt akwardly? I know I am gonna get rejected 95% of the time.

Yes, you need practice.

Approaching women outside your social circle puts you at a massive disadvantage. Better to be sociable, make friends, be popular (it's not that hard). If you meet a friend of a friend, you are at a massive advantage.

validation seeker.

fuck validation, it's worthless. it's not worth having, it's a false pretence, an addiction, and doesn't get you anything. get any validation you need from yourself.

JamesSkepp · 2016-09-27T07:38:35+00:00

Should I approach when I know I will get rejected?

Yes.

You THINK you know it will go bad, but then there will be this one set that will go well. This begs the question "if i assume ALL sets will go bad but some don't despite that, does it mean that i can assume the opposite and only some can go bad?". IOW you assume the outcome, but you assume the bad one. If you want to assume without checking how it really will go, why not assume the positive one?

Say my league is 6/10. Does it make sense to approach 8s?

Yes.

Given the choice between "not approaching and assuming rejection" and by "approaching and being rejected" take the one that gives you tangible experience.

Worst case scenario, you'll learn to handle rejection (both mentally end externally) and this will lead to a really cool discovery that MAJORITY of the rejections can be treated like a shit test and passed like one.

Best case scenario and not entirely unrealistic one, you'll pull some 8 eventually.

I know I am gonna get rejected 95% of the time.

You will ALWAYS be rejected, unless you have some massive SMV advantage. If you think you gonna "learn game" and not ever be rejected again, you're in the wrong mindset. Learn game to have fun and enjoy the process of picking her up.

Fear of rejection will always be there, so will be the rejection. Work with it, not against it.

yellowfart · 2016-09-27T07:44:47+00:00

Approaching girls is a skill. Some people are good at it, some other needs to practice it. You need to practice it. You will fail, I guarantee it. 100 times at least, maybe more. What's important is to learn from your mistakes a improve each time. Don't be afraid of failure, it's part of the process. The reason they look away is simple : they look at you, you look back, you don't talk, you don't smile... Why would they keep looking ?

CypherWolf21 · 2016-09-27T09:37:03+00:00

Well if you already know the outcome you have nothing to fear. Success is built upon the back of failures. Every time you get rejected, learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them. Eventually you'll stop getting rejected. If you never try you will never succeed.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-09-27T10:21:56+00:00

Men do. There's no getting out of that.

improvingme63 · 2016-09-27T15:07:00+00:00

Knowing you will get rejected should be freeing. You have no outcome dependance. Do your thing and make your desired outcome for an interaction purely to have fun.

redditatt · 2016-09-28T04:15:05+00:00

To build confidence, simply approach with the goal of making her/them laugh BUT make a deal with yourself that you will walk away with nothing. No number, no names, nothing. Take the pressure off yourself. Have some laughs and then walk away. You'll be surprised when girls chase you down wanting to hang out more. But you have to be willing to let go first.

I'm pretty high in SMV/looks but I still do this to build confidence and get practice. Just have some good ol fun with it.

Title	Should I approach when I know I will get rejected?
Author	waitwut8282
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Date	September 27, 2016 6:38 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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