I embodied the mentality that came with being red-pilled on “female nature.” I went far down the rabbit hole. I sabotaged relationships of all kinds while exploring this. This is what I ended up with:

vcreativ · 2022-06-25T09:00:42+00:00

You need to go inward and figure out who you are and what makes you tick.

+1

A slight addition that's often missed when people complain about, but all women I know behave like this.

People attract and notice people compatible with them. This is where a lack of mental health can be really treacherous, because you'll subconsciously attract those of a similar ilk or perceive behaviour through that lense. You could pass the others in the street even meet them, but they are unlikely to register.

Not only will your perspective on life change as you heal, but you're entire world in quite a literal sense.

Beenixwinterberry · 2022-06-25T00:39:51+00:00

How did you sabotage them? I notice it as well where people try to have redpill mentality in relationships and essentially destroy them.

Slight_Fig5187 · 2022-06-25T12:23:56+00:00

Great post, sadly the kind of thing that, if posted on a Pill forum, will get a lot of angry comments, although it's totally true.

Wolphy_Mathagomy · 2022-06-25T02:04:22+00:00

It’s funny how so much of this “female nature” rhetoric is based on the most low class of hedonistic women. It literally only applies to them. I think those relationships were sabotaged because those “teachings” never should have applied to them since they’re not the degenerates that the RP makes all women to be.

tryptakid · 2022-06-25T22:28:17+00:00

I can relate so much to this, and the wisdom gleaned. I'm not sure that I could have been taught this early on, but mostly because I was so focused on hiding the fact that I was unsure of myself.

I realized at a certain point in my late 20s that I had attractive qualities and unattractive qualities, that I could learn from watching characters in television shows (Mad Men for example) how to emulate confidence and charisma, in order to broadcast what I thought that you/she/someone else might find attractive. I dated prolifically as a result, and ended up in a series of long term relationships peppered with casual partnerships in times of being single, which all ultimately ended up in heartbreak, and eventually, with a reputation for being pushy/aggressive/manipulative. I was so focused on adapting the demeanor of who I thought you wanted me to be, I didn't spend any time learning about who you actually thought you were dating. Further, it's incredibly tiring to put on a mask in your intimate life, and then slowly start to see the real parts of you rejected, or to simply compartmentalize them.

I'm married now, and have an amazing wife who has known me a long time, having casually dated me during some of those years. When we reconnected, part of what we agreed upon was to begin couples therapy right off the bat, and develop a common language to talk about real shit with one another. We also invest in one another as partners. It's incredibly liberating to realize that I don't have to have all the answers, or act in 'the right way'. I just have to be authentic, transparent, and open to change. Communication is key, and it also helps to date based on share values.

Comments