I don’t like being a man. It dosent really mean anything to me.

Inareskai · 2022-06-21T19:49:55+00:00

Which parts of reddit are you getting that advice from?? Because almost all the advice in places like this and in incelexit are the exact opposite.

Men need to have supportive friendships and family groups. That's the advice I see given pretty constantly - go and make friends.

extherian · 2022-06-21T19:53:46+00:00

The negative things that you are saying to yourself are your way of protecting yourself from disappointment. When I was depressed, I thought very similar things to what you just said. Whether those thoughts are true or false is irrelevant, what matters more is the mindset that produced them.

Other posters will come along soon and begin debunking the things that you said, but you probably won't find their arguments convincing because you want certainty that everything will be OK, and you want a proven method to stop being lonely. No such guarantee exists.

I am telling you now that escaping the pain you are feeling is possible regardless of whether or not you get a girlfriend or a wider social circle. You need therapy, specifically cognitive behavioural therapy. If all the therapists you go to suck, keep trying different people until you find one who gets you.

xvszero · 2022-06-21T20:01:15+00:00

Who is telling you to learn to be alone and have no friends? That's shit advice. Go make some friends.

MavKM · 2022-06-21T20:55:36+00:00

Sounds like you're just un-ambitious

Slight_Fig5187 · 2022-06-21T21:49:38+00:00

Nothing of those things you need you don't have are needed for a good life. Those are extras some people do have, and they don't always make them happy.

I just took a flight that was slightly delayed and it was the last one of the day in a rather small airport, so I had plenty of time to look at all passengers. There wasn't a single man I would qualify as extremely attractive or just over average. However, many of them (average men, not specially attractive at all) were with girlfriends or wives or wore rings indicating they were married. This was a cheap flight, so probably none of them were rich either.

I think a lot of the advice you read in some reddit forums comes, either from men who have no real experience with women, or from men who have failed relationships or marriages behind them and are very bitter.. Very few men who have managed to find a reasonable degree of happiness do ever post there.

Title	I don’t like being a man. It dosent really mean anything to me.
Author	EveryStrategy4918
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	June 21, 2022 7:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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