Are you making her orgasm ?

Do you know how to make a woman orgasm? Do you know how to use your hands? Mouth? Dick? Combination of these things? What is squirting? Are there different types of squiring? Do you know when a woman fakes an orgasm? Are you sure? Are there different types of orgasm?

I see a lot of information about self-improvement and dating strategy but I found almost nothing on this topic here. To use a 'dog chasing a car' analogy... TRP can teach you to how to catch the car but very little about how to drive a car once you catch it. Thus, I thought I'll make a post.

TL;DR Touch her clitoris with your hand (specifically your three/four fingers - no thumb) while you are fucking her. Thats pretty much the gist of it. Find sex positions that allow you to touch her clitoris with your hand while you fuck her (eg. her back is on your chest). Most women are different and thus you will need to make the necessary adjustment's regarding hand movement(eg. circular, side to side, etc ), speed (some women like it super fast/medium/slow), pressure (eg light/medium/hard) and if you should or shouldn't include the clitoral hood as protection between your hands and clit. Hand movement might need to be different at the start than at the end. this is how it looks like. THIS TIP IS THE MOST SIMPLE AND THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE (IMO). TADAAA this is how most women actually orgasm during sex. Read on if interested.

Disclaimer: I am by no means an 'expert' on this topic (who would really be an expert and how would you verify/measure that I do not know). I will admit that I have likely MUCH more to learn. However, I've been with my fair share of women. My guess would be that I slept with 80+ women. I had multiple long term relationships, fwb, multiple fwb at the same time, threesomes and one poly relationship. Nevertheless, if you think you can educate me/correct me and improve my knowledge on this topic, I sincerely and humbly invite you to do so in the comments.

Warning: This topic is quite complex and thus it's very difficult to summarise it into one post. I will forget things. I will organise things inefficiently... I will make mistakes. Sex is more like alchemy than chemistry and thus its hard to create a play-by-play..

1. Intro

Why make this post? Women don't orgasm with most men. Do not be one of those men!

I like to be open about sex in my relationships. What do I mean by this? I mean.. I like to talk about everything with a woman regarding sex. Specifically, I like when women do majority of the talking. I want them to talk about fantasies, kinks, previous relationships. everything. Moreover, I like to talk about this topic without any judgement. I've been told multiple times that I am very easy to talk to about this stuff and that I do NOT put pressure on them to be a certain way sexually/shame them.

I've been told by women that they had gang bangs, they were raped/molested, had sex with a 'semi-close' relative (just to name a few rare unsavoury ones). However, one of the things I hear a lot about is the lack of orgasms that women experience. This ranges from women who never had an orgasm (and don't really masturbate), women who masturbate and don't orgasm, women who never orgasmed during sex (or are not sure), women who orgasmed during sex only a handful of times, and women who only make themselves orgasm during sex using their own hand ( I dont count grinding clit into abs to orgasm into this category) .

I would say 70+ percent of women I met fall into this category and ALMOST ALL of them told me that they faked it and lied about it to their lovers. I've been told a LOT of times that they simply fake it and that their lovers never really ask about it. I would say half of these women told me they never really had a conversation about sex with their boyfriends/lovers. I've been told a lot that if they don't fake it their lover just gets either disappointed or angry. Many times leading to a break up (e.g "I made women orgasm before.. If I cant make you orgasm, it must mean we are just not compatible sexually"). Their explanation is that it's far easier to just fake it. This tells me that there are a lot of women who do not orgasm during sex. Just go on google scholar and type "women","report" and "orgasm" if you want the science. It seems that my anecdotal experience is in line with scientific findings.

2. Short overview of female anatomy and types of orgasms

To preface this, there is a lot o debate about different types of orgasms and about female anatomy (relating to orgasm context). For example, there is a debate if vaginal and clitoral orgasms are different. Another one is the existence of a g-spot .

Anatomy: I will not be describing the whole female anatomy and will focus on the most important parts. You can find an image of both on the websites linked.

Clitoris

G-spot

Anatomy discussion: There are many parts of the vagina + surrounding areas that can be pleasurable and thus orgasm inducing. Such as inter thighs, labia, taint, anus and many more. However, these will not be discussed in this short overview. Clitoris and g spot are the main focus here.

Is g spot connected to clitoris? Do your own research to decide. IMO, yes. Clitoris is a much larger structure than a small little clitoris head (tho majority of nerves are there). It's parts connect inward into the vagina and this is what we call a g spot. Define them how you want, however, these two area are generally considered the pleasure areas of female anatomy.

Types of orgasm: There is a debate in this area too, however, I'll divide them into 3 categories

Clitoris orgasm - It is an orgasm that is achieved through clitoral stimulation

Vaginal - Orgasm achieved through vaginal stimulation

Other - Orgasm achieved through other parts of the body. Kissing, nipples, ass, anus, anal etc. This type of orgasm is fucking useless to focus on in this post imo. Apart from anal... this type of orgasm is extremely rare. Thus, it will not be discussed here any further.

Orgasm discussion: IMO most orgasms involve some part of the clitoris. It's either the clitoral head, outerior parts of the clitoris (e.g labia) and interior (g spot).

3. Orgasm

In my opinion, female ability to orgasm is the result of physical and emotional sexual stimulation, her anatomy and her past experience. You cannot influence her anatomy (you can adjust accordingly however) or pervious sexual experiences, and thus I will focus on physical and emotional stimulation. The hardest part of a non orgasmic woman is the first orgasm. Why? Well, did you cum the first time you jerked off? Or was it a gradual process until you figured it out? If a woman did not experience an orgasm during sex, she might be ready to have one. You might not know what to do. Might be too early into a relationship. You might not be attractive enough.

4. Barriers to female orgasm

A. Her fault

• She might not be psychologically ready
  • anxiety
  • cant relax
  • cant let go/submit
• She doesn't know how to give herself one
  • Is too afraid/ashamed to use her hand
  • Doesn't know how to move to make herself orgasm
  • Doesn't know how to grind her clitoris into your body so she can orgasm (this is typically cowgirl position)
• Her biology/hormones are fucked up
  • she truly might not be able to orgasm for what ever reason
  • If she cant make herself orgasm at all... good luck to you..

B. Your fault

• You have no idea what you are doing
• You aren't physically attractive enough
• You have severe physical deficiencies
• You can't create the right mood/ are awkward

5. Things that help with making women orgasm

BODY

• Penis - Girth/Length/Curve.
  • In my opinion, a larger penis (particularly thicker) has a positive effect on women having an orgasm. Larger penis fills up the vagina better and during insertion it can stimulate different outer parts of the vagina (thicker penis touches the sides of the vagina opening more and this is "moving" the whole vagina more). Curvature and angling can help with stimulating the g-spot.
  • If you have a smaller dick, angling and movement are your friends.
• Hot body - Muscles/Smell/Face
  • This is simple. You orgasm faster with a hotter woman. Women are the same. The most I had to control myself (not cum) is with a mixed Brazilian woman with 10/10 body. For those guys reading this who went from fat/twig body to jacked body, compare how women responded to you during sex before and after you got jacked. HIT THE GYM
  • Better face you have, more turned on she is. Testosterone and lower body fat% improves your face. HIT THE GYM
  • You having a masculine smell (or smell that turns her on) will make her more turned on.
• Rhythm
  • Do you suck at dancing? Do you move like an autist that cant even clap his hands in a rhythm? Well... this might be fucking up your sex life. Keeping a solid rhythm is key when you use your hand, mouth and dick. Think about it... When you jerk off, do you randomly change speed and rhythm? Try it. See if it makes you orgasm when you are close to cumming.
• Movement of your body/penis
  • How do you fuck ? Do you only jackhammer like a retard (not saying that there isn't a time and a place for this too tho). Or do you tease? Do you insert your penis only 1/3 in, 2/3 in, 3/3 sometimes? Do you know how to create a build up?
  • Do you know how to grind your lower abs into her clit during missionary ?

MIND

• Anticipation / before foreplay
  • Are you sexual? Are you touching her and making your intentions known?
  • Teasing her
  • What do you do before you become sexual?
  • Do you talk dirty to her ) ?
• Mood
  • Are YOU relaxed?
  • Do you know how to take charge?
  • Can you smoothly move it to sex or are you awkward?
• Foreplay
  • Is your foreplay long enough? (quickie excluded)
  • Are you sufficiently teasing her?
• Sex
  • Are you dominant?
  • Do you talk dirty to her ?
  • Do you use your hands to touch her during sex? Her ass, waist, neck, etc?
  • Are you physical? Pick her up? Fucking her with enthusiasm and passion?

Actual things that you can do

Keep in mind you need to learn her body. Women are like golf. You need to play each hole little bit differently. However, if you played golf before, you have an idea what to do on different courses.

• Oral
  • A good foreplay built up can do wonders with oral
  • Focus the clit: The clit is where the action is at. You should take care of other vagina parts but the clitoris is the main focus.
  • To be or not to be? To insert your fingers or not? In my experience most women enjoy inserting two fingers inside the vagina to rub the g spot while you do oral. Google how to massage the g spot.
  • Put your whole mouth (lips) on the clitoris. Don't do the porn lick.
  • How to move your tongue? Well, this again depends on a lady. In my experience you typically go around the clitoris with your tongue, side to side, bottom to top or just a kissing motion.
  • What suction pressure to use? Well this again depends on a lady. Some women (ime) like a LOT of suction while some almost none. Moreover, you might need to increase suction gradually.
  • MY best move is to suck the clit like a little dick (yeah thats what the clit is) and do a gentle come here motion on her g spot with my middle and ring finger)
  • There are many more methods that work on some women (e.g tongue going inside vag)
  • Dont be afraid to lick pussy when she is in doggy style position (you lick her from the back). I had women who could only cum that way
• Hands
  • Come here motion with two fingers when stimulating the g spot as previously mentioned in oral section. (only this time you can be kissing her/ kissing her tits etc)
  • Google how to make a woman squirt with hands. You basically make the same motion as above just faster, shakier and stronger.
  • Clitoris: this depends which way are you facing her clit
    • Palm on her stomach fingers on clit ->> Best way to use hands imo. It's the one from TLDR. Why is it the best? It's the angle of hand she uses to masturbate. Thus, this is the one she is the most prepared for.
    • The opposite way ->> I typically use my thumb
  • Massage her anus opening. Only the opening at first (if you do anal play)
• Dick
  • Interesting Rhythm
  • Angle (towards g-spot)
  • Good movement
  • Grinding into her clitoris with your abs

Ok I m done. I might edit (or add) some things later on but this is a decent introduction into the topic. It took me 4.5 hours to write this, which for me is roughly 200 euros wasted. Hope it wasn't a total waste.

Edit: I am not saying you need to do a lot of this stuff. When my girlfriend wakes me up in the middle of the night to fuck, I don't do anything other than put saliva on my hand, insert my dick and fuck. I dont talk dirty, there was no foreplay/built up.. I just move my body how I know she likes it. She cums. I go back to sleep (sometimes I don't even cum). This isn't some instruction manual. I don't really think about this stuff when I have sex. It comes naturally. It's like jerking off. You just know what you are doing after a while. However, making her orgasm for the first time is the real hurdle to get over. Here all the extras can be quite helpful.