Long time lurker/RP relationship coach here, and finally felt inspired to chime in.

Red pill is NOT a magic pill (no pun intended) to get a man to do what you want him to do.

Red pill is just acknowledging that men have sovereignty in the relationship as do women. That we fill different roles in the relationship. And we owe the men we love kindness and respect without disrespecting our boundaries and needs.

Lovelies, for heck’s sake if you want something from your man-simply ASK. Politely of course. He has every right to acknowledge his boundary and say no, but naturally if your man loves you he’ll want to meet your needs.

Getting what you want from your man starts with you.

1. Get in touch with your feelings. What makes you happy? Sad? Loved? Jealous? Etc

2. What do you need from him to help you address those feelings?

3. Tell him.

4. LISTEN

5. If he says yes yay! Thank him and move on

6. If he says No, take stock of your feelings. Was it a need? Was a boundary being violated? Were you just asking to ask?

6a. If it’s the first two communicate that to him, and don’t stay with a man that doesn’t honor your boundaries and needs.

6b If it’s the third- don’t be so extra :)

Anyways that’s all.

With love.