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San_Ra · 2022-09-05T20:24:31+00:00

Just need somewhere to put this. Seperated comming up one year one more year till i can file. Dating a wonderful woman but im still working through trauma. She...

San_Ra

September 5, 2022

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Title	Facebook post
Author	San_Ra
Upvotes	0
Comments	2
Date	September 5, 2022 8:24 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/x6qaxf/facebook_post/
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[–]ThrowAwayAccount__0 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It's because you're running away from the shit in your head. You're not even divorced, not even 2 years out, and you're already running to the next woman

You're just setting yourself up for failure.

As men, it's our responsibility to find out what our issues are and work through them and fix them. That's how we grow as people.

Women are great, but like anything, we can use them to run away from our own demons instead of face the music or our own fears.

That's what you're doing. And why you feel that waY? I dunno. Maybe you don't really like this woman, but she's the escape from reality you're looking for. And when she says stuff publicly you're faced with a reality you may not want.

You can't work on yourself while dating. It doesn't work that way. You have to be single, alone, so you can really figure out who you are and what you stand for.

Mentally you're not ready to date and I'm on the boat of "sex isn't really helpful if you have baggage that needs to be dealt with."

I dunno.

Buy a couple of male-oriented books and get some tools to help understand who you are. Otherwise you'll just be running around lost like the rest of them out there, jumping from distraction to distraction.

[–]San_Ra[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link