What does a meaningful life look like?

Zealousideal-Bear-37 · 2023-06-18T00:10:04+00:00

Man . I promise you . Listen to me . Life is what you make it . I was married to an extremely wealthy superficially beautiful woman , and I was incredibly anxious and unhappy . I now live far more simply . I have a motorcycle , I have new tattoos, I decided to hit the gym HARD . I’ve quit my job once I lined up a better one . I’ve got a five year old girl where I split 50/50, and a year after my separation and finding my “mojo” I’ve met a person that is easy going and aligns with me quite well ( eyes fully open , always living separately). It takes time , but everyday is a chance to improve your life in many different aspects . It’s like building blocks . Just make a list and put one block on the other . You won’t believe where you are in a years time . I think THAT pursuit , the pursuit of the self , is where meaning is truly found . I hope you find peace happiness and love in yours .

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-06-18T00:49:08+00:00

To laugh often and much: To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded. -(Ralph Waldo Emmerson)

CrazySanta7 · 2023-06-18T00:16:47+00:00

You know, i got advice one time, and it seemed to help. Sit down and write your eulogy on paper. When you are finished, read it out loud to yourself. Now, reflect on it.....if there are things you want to change on the eulogy, set some goals for those things and start them today.

On a side note, exercise is huge for me. There are many studies about the benefits. I did start volunteering as well, and it was really rewarding. Lastly, i think it's mostly about your kids. The best reward as a dad is for kids to thank you when they become adults. Good luck, bro!

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-06-18T01:06:51+00:00

Personally, I do not like to over think things. Never one to sit in the woods in deep thoughts over meaning and purpose. It’s just mental masturbation. Add to this, no need to think we need these romanticized, grandiose accomplishments either.

I think we just need to find a few things in life that we are good at, that we are passionate about and somehow other people benefit from that. That to me is fulfillment.

It’s great if your job provides that. It’s not necessary. Your job can provide resources to allow you to pursue the activities that provide you fulfillment.

coffeefrog92 · 2023-06-18T00:01:32+00:00

I think any meaningful life requires your devotion to a mission or higher ideal.

If you're a father, you have one ready made, because it gonna be your kids.

But in addition to your kids it could be devotion to your spiritual path, building a business, serving others in some way etc.

It could be anything really so long as it made getting out of bed and dealing with the suffering of life mean something.

He who has a why can bear any how.

Naturallobotomy · 2023-06-18T01:46:59+00:00

I’ve always liked this quote when I get in that headspace: “To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Classic_Dill · 2023-06-18T00:31:44+00:00

Feeling secure and knowing the direction that you’re going in and enjoying getting up every morning and knowing that you’ll be happy, either with yourself, or with somebody else in your life. When you become that rock solid, I think that’s when you really made it home.

captainchippsixx · 2023-06-18T00:04:31+00:00

I have not figured it out yet either brother. I have been watching strong successful male on you tube. Lot of truth to not get married again which I will never do. Focusing on work and the kids. I have a gf as well, but let’s just say I’m keeping my eyes open.

I almost feel it’s better to just try some shit and shit what happens. Interests, travel, hobbies, career, whatever. But being a careful guy it’s difficult for me. Have a lot of people that count on me.

EaseHot6703 · 2023-06-18T01:48:38+00:00

Establish your own definition as you go! You’ll feel it when you contact it. You just stay good and love on the little ones. We’re gonna be okay through all this. Cheers

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-06-18T10:51:29+00:00

I’m sitting here in a similar situation- meanwhile while you’ve survived , won and are still alive you’re literally ahead of Billions of others .

Meanwhile I like to go with this .

https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=Conan+What+Is+Best+in+Life&&view=detail&mid=5C9A83FDCEBEBCEEE7445C9A83FDCEBEBCEEE744&&FORM=VRDGAR&PC=APPL

priscillaturts · 2023-06-18T00:10:03+00:00

Check out Atomic Habits. Mission. Purpose. Identity.

Title	What does a meaningful life look like?
Author	San_Ra
Upvotes	14
Comments	33
Date	June 17, 2023 11:46 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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