How to deal with girls who rejected you?

Lauionescu · 2017-08-27T08:47:53+00:00

Just say hello and move on. Don't go to her, if she is far away and makes eye contact just nod your head, smile and then move on. Don't start conversations. Let her do it. Be busy having fun! If she does come over to you, be a charming James Bond and act like nothing happened and you are not mad at her for not calling. Actually, do not act, you shouldn't be mad at her for that. Either if you did everything perfect on your date, maybe she just wasn't attracted to you. Anyway, it's her loss! Don't forget to have fun!

zenRP · 2017-08-27T09:52:13+00:00

Have an abundance mentality. If you were talking to multiple other girls would you really care about a single one that shut you down? Probably not. It would just be business as usual. Be cool, calm, and collected if you talk to her or see her, but don't worry about her.

[deleted] · 2017-08-27T08:46:12+00:00

You only have 2 options here 1.Don't go the the party and never speak to her agaiin. 2.Go to the party and hold frame.

MattyAnon · 2017-08-27T12:47:50+00:00

Don't avoid her, don't chase her. Find an opportunity to say "hi" and be super cool early in the evening, and that's it.

Girls get this much more than they say.... look at it this way: how many stories are you hearing for girls about the guys that hit on them? Very very few. Yet it happens all the time. You aren't the worst she's had, but you ARE the guy who is cool with it. You say "hi" and you smile and say what a fun day you've had, you don't ask ANY QUESTIONS (not even "how are you") so you don't look like you want anything from her. and you move on. and that's it.

[deleted] · 2017-08-27T10:04:59+00:00

You are caring a lot. When you see her, say hi, tease her, flirt with other women, whatever. For now, fake it til you make it and act how you would act if the rejection meant nothing to you. Eventually, rejections will mean nothing to you. They're a good thing.

Ittype01 · 2017-08-27T23:24:14+00:00

understand that not all girls are going to be attracted to you and that even if they are... they can lose attraction easily if they discover something about you that turns them off. I would say her attraction to you was pretty low when you went on the date.

You're angry because you invested too much in the girl (emotionally) and her ghosting you bruised your ego.

So just understand that failure and rejection is totally normal and that not everything will happen to our liking; if you ingrain this in your mind you will be able to better deal with all failures and rejections. and like mentioned above, if you see her just smile, say hi and move on.

it's not a big deal if you don't make it one.

VladvonK · Sun Aug 27 12:22:54 2017 UTC

Can you describe ways in which you messed up?

mcr00sterdota · 2017-08-27T12:30:02+00:00

Your attitude should be IDGAF but at the same time do not waste any time/compliments on her.

walawalawa · 2017-08-27T21:36:23+00:00

In the rare cases this happens, I just ignore if I see them again. Usually I just say hi if I'm absolutely caught in a situation where I'm face-to-face with the girl again.

Otherwise I act as though I don't know them.

Title	How to deal with girls who rejected you?
Author	awayverysoon2
Upvotes	8
Comments	13
Date	August 27, 2017 7:50 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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