It's a tale as old as PPD. "If only these women would stop chasing 'tingles tehehe' (?!) and give me, a great guy with wholesome qualities that would make a great partner a chance."

You criticize women who choose attractive men with options over you, and lambast men who treat these women as disposable and call them brutes for pumping and dumping.

All very well and good. But are these aspects of your character genuine, or just a product of having very few dating options?

You claim to be nice, loyal, and great listeners. You say you'd be an amazing father and provider. You say you'd love unconditionally and romantically and make her feel secure and happy.

But it's easy to be loyal when nobody else wants you. Of course you're going to treat the one woman who gives you the first ounce of attention you've received in years as if she's the last woman on earth. You're going to relish every word she says, treasure every moment, do everything you can to make her feel happy.

She's all you've got. But is that a good thing? Isn't that a reflection of your desperation, not your amazing character? It's fundamentally self serving. You're getting the world from her, you're getting what you believe to be your every emotional and sexual needs met, something you haven't experienced much before and if you lose her may be waiting a long long time to experience again.

It's not HER you love. SHE could be any woman who doesn't repulse you and shows you any sign of affection whatsoever. How is that special treatment supposed to make her feel loved when INSTINCTIVELY she knows it's not her you're grateful to be with, but just ANY woman.

You believe you would be an amazing, kind, compliant and loving partner who cherishes a woman the way they deserve. But you're not, you're just a man without choices. And why would a woman want that?

If you were a man with options, you'd treat women exactly the same way. You'd set boundaries, you'd walk after too many signs of trouble, you'd be decisive and firm and guide the relationship on your terms, a mature, stable, strong man's terms. You'd lead, and you'd satisfy her and you'd love her GENUINELY because out of all the women you could have, you'd be CHOOSING her, not settling for her.

Sometimes, a lot of the time, those boundaries are broken. The price of being a strong man in a relationship, of having options, is HAVING to walk away from a bad deal. And with confidence that you'll find another woman, because you know you're a great catch with value, you're prepared to do this. Without that confidence, knowing deep down you're not really of much value at all, you won't walk away. You won't have boundaries. You'll be weak. You'll be a "nice" guy. But trust me, she ain't missing out.