Aside from childhood trauma idk where to start

NamelessOneHere · 2022-12-02T15:03:19+00:00

When you're lonely and struggling, every decision becomes monumental.

It sounds like you're overthinking this. Getting your degree is a great idea. Maybe start with your required classes and once you get comfortable, start planning which major you want. Try to pick a major that will lead to a job. Good luck to you!

notusingthisforlong1 · 2022-12-06T14:13:25+00:00

To me, being red pill isn't giving up your own ambitions to be some 50s housewife, it's just acknowledging the difference between men and women on a bio level and that feminism had downsides as well as upsides.

I definitely think you need to see a therapist for sure. Are you currently living at home and need college to leave or are you an adult living away from your abusers but think college will help you heal? If it's the first one, then I think you need to do whatever you need to do to leave a bad environment.

You mention doing what your "man" wants. Do you have a serious relationship or is this just a hypothetical man you might meet? If this isn't a real person, don't worry about it. Focus on what will get you out of your situation now. If he is an actual boyfriend, be wary of a man who is against you getting educated. This whole manosphere thing about men turning down women who are too educated is largely a myth. All the married women i know have bachelors degrees and some have masters. Its not a big deal. Getting a bachelor's degree isn't going to price you out of the dating market.

Since you're still considering college I'm guessing you're young like 18 to 22ish. Then that means you have time to have kids. You aren't 38 and facing infertility. Don't Worry about this stuff. Only focus on what can make your life better right now. If college is the only way out, then do it. Just be smart about your major. Don't pick anything in the arts or humanity's (speaking from experience. I was an English major) and think practically about what will help your future. Sadly, the one income life is largely a thing of the past. Over 60 percent of married mothers have to work because of the high cost of living. A degree and a decent job aren't going to hinder you from getting a man and kids later on.

Take some deep breath, you'll sort it out.

sunglasses90 · 2022-12-02T16:54:34+00:00

You should get a therapist before you do anything.

AutoModerator · 2022-12-01T20:05:41+00:00

Title: Aside from childhood trauma idk where to start

Full text: Because to me, getting a job and education is part of leaving from my own childhood trauma (it was neglect I think, just assuming since I seem to feel lonely often times, which, may be how I stumbled across red pill, while being online often). If I am red pill truly I'm not sure I can use social media or be a presence online

What about children and marriage? What about what he wants to truly do? Aren't women supposed to follow their "man"? I want to get out of my childhood neglect. But I'm scared that if I go to school then I'm digging more into being lonely. I'm currently (technically) a neet, except for my own special interest in esoteric or occult information. It doesn't make me comfortable anymore, my little bubble has been popped and now I'm just wheezing in the air it saves.

Question: should I go to college to leave my loneliness?

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spaghettiparrot · 2022-12-12T13:58:08+00:00

Please please please find a reputable psychotherapist to resolve your trauma BEFORE you align yourself with a new Internet ideology.

If you have been neglected and abused as a child, you may have issues with self-esteem, boundaries, emotional regulation, etc. These need to be sorted out before you do ANYTHING else.

Title	Aside from childhood trauma idk where to start
Author	Embarrassed_Cup2524
Upvotes	9
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Date	December 1, 2022 8:05 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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