Need some advise on this situation. Me 33 wife 38 married 12yrs with an 11yr old son. So ive been lurking for 9 months. Grew up with Mom leading the family and deciding everything even as bad as what my dad would eat at a restaurant. So the last 33yrs was Women make all the decisions for Everything..Hung around deadbedrooms for a while got super depressed and became super distant. Still in a deadbedroom (my fault i never initiated), been reading sidebar, lifting and STFU. Been passing shit tests and leading the family . Her mood has changed and no arguing anymore. Im so glad i found mrp it has completely changed my life for the better.

Now to the main issue. Wife has been super protective over her phone the past 4 months and hiding it when i walk in the room..she's using snapchat as communication with some dude im guessing.2 Assumed it was an emotional thing but now shes goin out with a "girlfriend" after work alot. (Dude must be in town or lives here) Shes got everything on lock down so it's tough to verify. She left this morning around 1am to goto the "Hospital" (health issues) i know her and she would've waited till morning. So to see if im crazy i drive to hospital and her vehicle isn't there.

So to me it seems like lying and cheating is happening. The situation were in financially isnt great. She switched jobs, missed tons of work from health issues and emergency savings took a big hit. Living separately on one income each isnt going to work especially with my son involved..Shes from another country and her whole family is there im all she has here.

Looking for some outside eyes to see if im reading this right and where to go from here.

Wrote this on 2hrs sleep..Rereading this wow. Real hamstering/being in her frame..I need alot of work.